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61 " But before we get to not giving a fuck, let’s talk about when you should give a fuck. You should give a fuck if something—be it human, inanimate, or conceptual—does not annoy and does bring you joy. Sometimes that calculation is easy and the decision is obvious. Huzzah! Very exciting. But more often—and the reason you need the NotSorry Method—you’re not pausing to make any calculation at all, or you’re making the wrong one. "
― Sarah Knight , The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don't Have with People You Don't Like Doing Things You Don't Want to Do
62 " But if your fuck-giving affects you and only you (such as not getting all tarted up just to go to the grocery store), then why should you care about what other people think? Let them have their opinions about your yoga pants and Ani DiFranco T-shirt; you’re comfortable and you won’t get hit on by the squirrelly checkout guy. "
63 " It’s time to flip the script, reverse the curse, and stop giving all of your fucks to all the wrong things for all the wrong reasons. "
64 " In my experience, people who don’t give a fuck fall into one of three categories: Children Assholes The Enlightened "
65 " Let it be known that not having your shit together doesn't automatically make you a bad person. "
― Sarah Knight , Get Your Sh*t Together: How to Stop Worrying About What You Should Do So You Can Finish What You Need to Do and Start Doing What You Want to Do (A No F*cks Given Guide)
66 " So my strategy was to amortize, which is a fancy world for "break it into small, manageable chunks which are then spread over time. "
67 " Strategize, focus, commit. That's what having your shit together looks like. "
68 " Out with annoy, in comes joy. "
― Sarah Knight , Get Your Sh*t Together Journal
69 " The annoy so outweighed the joy that I had to take action. "
70 " You have to get all the way inside and really fucking own up to it before you have any hope of clearing it out. Yes, you must experience Fuck Overload in order to fully recognize the time, energy, and/or money you’re spending on your fucks—and to get excited about pruning them once and for all. "
71 " Things Work Friends, Acquaintances, and Strangers Family Taken together, these categories constitute the vast miasma of people and things that you could potentially stop giving a fuck about. But we’ll work through them one at a time, which will make this whole process a little easier on you. You’re welcome. "
72 " if there are items on my list that annoy, then I should not be giving my fucks to them. Vice versa with joy. "
73 " Parental one-upmanship. Nobody but you gives a fuck about what AMAZING programs your child’s school offers (Robotics! Mandarin! Trapeze!), or how many hours of homework the teachers assign, or the intricacies of your chauffeur schedule. Nonparents especially don’t give a fuck, but other parents only want to know this stuff if they are considering sending their own kids to that school, or carpooling with you. Parents! "
74 " Feigning sincerity. I am the embodiment of “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” I just don’t give a fuck about faking it. "
75 " Getting it together for the big stuff is just getting it together for the small stuff over time "
76 " Some of the things on my lists might seem overly simplistic or shallow, but I assure you that they represent a very clear and quantifiable allocation of my time, energy, and/or money. I often feel pressure to go to the gym, for instance, and then guilt that I never do. By deciding not to give a fuck about gym-going, I’m liberating myself from those moments of feeling guilty and inadequate (and fat), and instead joyfully indulging in an extra hour of sleep each morning. "
77 " Your time, energy, and/or money spent should result in greater happiness for you. "
78 " was a born fuck-giver. Maybe you are too. As a self-described overachieving perfectionist, I gave my fucks liberally all throughout my childhood and adolescence. I tackled numerous projects, tasks, and standardized tests in order to prove myself worthy of respect and admiration from my family, friends, and even casual acquaintances. I socialized with people I did not like in order to appear benevolent; I performed jobs that were beneath me in order to appear helpful; I ate things that disgusted me in order to appear gracious. In short, I gave way too many fucks for far, far too long. This was no way to live. "
79 " Expert: Next time someone mentions your coworker Regina’s sexting habit, simply put up your hand and repeat after me: “Imma tell her you said that.” Voilà! You are no longer trusted with gossip. Team-building "
80 " People already admire celebrities and therefore accept their eccentricities, or those eccentricities form the basis for the admiration in the first place. So you're not a celebrity-so what? That doesn't mean you can't indulge in a little freedom of expression. "
― Sarah Knight , You Do You: How to Be Who You Are and Use What You've Got to Get What You Want