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181 " As long as she was happy and nice, I loved back. But if she was unhappy or upset, I would feel blamed and then argue or distance myself. "
― John Gray , Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
182 " Modern philosophies in which history is a process of human self-realization are therefore spin-offs from the mystical speculations of medieval theologians. When Hegel envisioned history as a rational process, he was able to do so because – like Plato and Plotinus – he believed the world was a manifestation of Logos. "
― John Gray
183 " Generally speaking, when a woman offers unsolicited advice or tries to “help” a man, she has no idea of how critical and unloving she may sound to him. "
184 " The time you spend in any relationship is not a loss if you learn from it and complete it in a positive way. Each time you follow your heart and then plainly recognize that someone is not right for you, then you are definitely one step closer to finding the right person for you. "
― John Gray , Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship
185 " If women become too much like men, men lose purpose, meaning, and inspiration in life. "
― John Gray , Venus on Fire, Mars on Ice: Hormonal Balance--The Key to Life, Love, and Energy
186 " Trust does not mean believing that he is perfect or that he is always right, but rather it is about trusting that he has positive intentions. He needs to get the message from her, again and again, that when he shows up, his best is good enough for her. "
― John Gray , Beyond Mars and Venus: Taking Your Relationship to the Next Level
187 " Men, if you’re traveling with your wife or girlfriend and she mentions that it’s time to start looking for a restaurant, you need to sit up and take notice. This means her blood sugar level has dropped and, for you, it ought to be a red alert with flashing lights and sirens. Get that woman fed! "
188 " I learned it is not enough just to be happy with what we have; we must honor our material desires as well. "
― John Gray , How To Get What You Want And Want What You Have
189 " Men particularly need more acceptance when they are stressed because acceptance stimulates more testosterone in him and lowers his stress. Likewise, women need more understanding when they are stressed because understanding stimulates more oxytocin and estrogen in her and lowers her stress. Acceptance means not correcting or trying to improve someone. It is not trying to change your partner. Acceptance to a man may sound like this: “It is no big deal; next time, would you give me a call when you are late? "
190 " To be genuinely happy requires dipping down into the well to release, heal, and purify the emotions. "
191 " Perhaps what distinguishes humans from other animals is that humans have learned to cling more abjectly to life "
― John Gray , Straw Dogs: Thoughts on Humans and Other Animals
192 " Wanting to improve someone feels like love but it is not. Changing ourselves to do what works instead of trying to change our partner, letting go of judgment, and finding forgiveness are the true expressions of love. "
193 " لا شئ أكثر أهمية، بالنسبة لنا، من أن نعيش الحياة التي نختارها بإرادتنا. ولا يعود ذلك إلى أننا نثمن الحرية أكثر مما كان يثمنها الناس في الأزمنة الماضية، بل لأننا ننظر إلى الحياة الطيبة باعتبارها حصرًا الحياة التي نختارها بإرادتنا.وتعكس ديانة الاختيار تلك حقيقة أننا مجبورون على ارتجال حياتنا. وكوننا لا نستطيع أن نفعل غير ذلك هو الدليل القاطع على افتقارنا الكامل للحرية. لقد غدا الاختيار صنمًا نعبده، بيد أن السمة المميزة للأصنام هي أننا لا نختارها بإرادتنا "
― John Gray , Straw Dogs (Piduru Ballo)
194 " Until the age of nine, a child doesn’t need choices. Having too many choices pushes a child to grow up too soon. One of the greatest sources of stress for adults today is too many choices. Directly asking a young child what she wants puts too much pressure on the child. Always asking children what they want or how they feel weakens a parent’s ability to maintain control. "
― John Gray , Children Are from Heaven: Positive Parenting Skills for Raising Cooperative, Confident, and Compassionate Children
195 " For people in thrall to 'mortality', the good life means perpetual striving. For Taoists it means living effortlessly, according to our natures. The freest human being is not one who acts on reasons he has chosen for himself, but one who never has to choose. Rather than agonizing about alternatives he responds effortlessly to situations as they arise. He lives not as he chooses but as he must. "
196 " With increasing stresses at work and with higher expectations of lasting romance at home, relationships today are challenging for almost everyone. "
197 " If she washes your socks, turn your socks right side out so she doesn’t have to. "
198 " One study revealed that a woman’s self-esteem generally rises and falls in a cycle between twenty-one and thirty-five days. No studies have been done on how often a man pulls back like a rubber band, but my experience is that it is about the same. A woman’s self-esteem cycle is not necessarily in sync with her menstrual cycle, but it does average out at twenty-eight days. "
199 " In the struggle for life, a taste for truth is a luxury – or else a disability: only tormented persons want truth. Man is like other animals, wants food and success and women, not truth. Only if the mind Tortured by some interior tension has despaired of happiness: then it hates its life-cage and seeks further. "
200 " Offer to sharpen her knives in the kitchen. "