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141 " the suggestions, strategies, and "

― John Gray , Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

142 " The secret of forming a successful relationship is for both partners to win. "

― John Gray , Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

143 " When men and women are on the verge of arguing, they are generally misunderstanding each other. "

― John Gray , Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

144 " close "

― John Gray , Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

145 " Women today truly need their men and whatever help they can provide. "

― John Gray , Venus on Fire, Mars on Ice: Hormonal Balance--The Key to Life, Love, and Energy

146 " Belief in the liberating power of knowledge has become the ruling illusion of modern humankind. Most want to believe that some kind of explanation or understanding will deliver them from their conflicts. Yet being divided from yourself goes with being self-aware. This is the truth in the Genesis myth: the Fall is not an event at the beginning of history but the intrinsic condition of self-conscious beings. "

― John Gray

147 " As commonly practised, philosophy is the attempt to find good reasons for conventional beliefs'
'There is no mechanism of selection in the history of ideas akin to that of the natural selection of genetic mutations in evolution'
'Human knowledge is one thing, human well-being is another.There is no predetermined harmony between the two'
'In the struggle for life, the taste for truth is a luxury-or else a disability "

― John Gray , Straw Dogs: Thoughts on Humans and Other Animals

148 " Gradually she will realize that a man wants to make improvements when he feels he is being approached as the solution to a problem rather than as the problem itself. "

― John Gray , Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

149 " Men and women arguing in this way hurt not only their feelings but also their relationship. Just as communication is the most important element in a relationship, arguments can be the most destructive element, because the closer we are to someone, the easier it is to bruise or be bruised. "

― John Gray , Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

150 " Când valul se prăbușește, este momentul curățeniei. Fără această curățenie sau catharsis emoțional, o femeie își pierde cu timpul capacitatea de a iubi și a evolua în dragoste. Prin reprimarea controlată a sentimentelor, natura ei oscilatorie este obstrucționată și ea devine treptat lipsită de pasiune. Unele femei, care evită să aibă de-a face cu impulsurile lor negative și se opun mișcării naturale ondulatorii a sentimentelor lor, suferă de sindromul premenstrual (PMS). Există o legătură strânsă între PMS și neputința de a face față într-o manieră constructivă sentimentelor negative. În unele cazuri, femei care au reușit să învețe cum să-și trateze sentimentele, au constatat că PMS a dispărut.
Chiar o femeie puternică, sigură de ea și bucurându-se de succes, va avea nevoie să coboare din când în când în adâncul fântânii. Bărbații fac de obicei greșeala să creadă că, dacă partenera lor are succese în muncă, nu va trece prin aceste momente de curățire a sufletului. De fapt, este exact invers.
Dacă o femeie lucrează, ea este de obicei expusă la stres și poluare emoțională. Nevoia de curățire a sufletului devine acută. La fel, nevoia unui bărbat de a se contracta ca un elastic devine mai intensă dacă este supus unei încordări mai mari la lucru.
Un studiu a arătat că respectul de sine al femeii crește și scae de obicei după un ciclu având o durată între douăzeci și una și treizeci de zile.
Când femeia își pune hainele de lucru, poate face abstracție de acest tangaj emoțional, dar când revine acasă are nevoie ca partenerul să-i ofere sprijinul afectuos pe care îl apreciază și de care are nevoie. Este important de cunoscut că această tendință a femeii de a se scufunda nu îi influențează competența la serviciu, dar îi afectează puternic comunicarea cu persoanele pe care le iubește și care-i sunt apropiate. "

― John Gray , Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

151 " Most arguments escalate when a man begins to invalidate a woman’s feelings and she responds to him disapprovingly. "

― John Gray , Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

152 " Suddenly she began to feel the way she felt as a child when her father was too busy for her. Her past unresolved feelings of anger and powerlessness were projected onto Harris’s watching TV. If these feelings had not come up, Cathy would have been able gracefully to accept Harris’s wish to watch TV. "

― John Gray , Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

153 " A professional man is someone who competently does his job whether he feels like it or not. "

― John Gray , Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship

154 " A glance at any human should be enough to dispel any notion that it is the work of an intelligent being. "

― John Gray

155 " She wants empathy, but he thinks she wants solutions. "

― John Gray , Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

156 " This distinction also helps us to understand why men commonly interrupt a woman when she is talking about a problem. This interruption generally occurs in an intimate relationship when a woman is not looking to solve a problem but instead is talking in order to feel better or closer to her partner. "

― John Gray , Beyond Mars and Venus: Taking Your Relationship to the Next Level

157 " When confronted with a problem, a man wants to solve it while a woman often wants to talk about it first. For women, talking and then feeling heard and understood stimulates oxytocin, which allows her estrogen levels to rise and her stress to decrease. Through expressing her feelings, she is able to return to her female side, which balances her hormones and lowers her stress levels. In this way she is better able to cope with life’s inevitable external stresses. "

― John Gray , Beyond Mars and Venus: Taking Your Relationship to the Next Level

158 " Address the letter to your partner. Pretend that he or she is listening to you with love and understanding. 2. Start with anger, then sadness, then fear, then regret, and then love. Include all five sections in each letter. 3. Write a few sentences about each feeling; keep each section approximately the same length. Speak in simple terms. 4. After each section, pause and notice the next feeling coming up. Write about that feeling. 5. Do not stop your letter until you get to the love. Be patient and wait for the love to come out. 6. Sign your name at the end. Take a few moments to think about what you need or want. Write it in a P.S. "

― John Gray , Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

159 " When a woman is upset about something, men either want to suggest a solution (which is why they interrupt) or encourage her to forget it, and while she is talking about it, they can do neither. But there’s another reason men often interrupt women when they are upset and talking about a problem: they incorrectly interpret her strong emotional reaction to moderate external stress. A man wrongly assumes that if a woman is getting upset then it is because she can’t solve her problems on her own. He interprets her stronger emotional response as an urgent need for help, and then tries to give it. "

― John Gray , Beyond Mars and Venus: Taking Your Relationship to the Next Level

160 " Men do become very emotional when they have a big upset. "

― John Gray , Beyond Mars and Venus: Taking Your Relationship to the Next Level