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The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption QUOTES

The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption QUOTES

1 " But there is a beauty even in loving without response because that kind of love is truly selfless. When we love with no expectation or promise of reciprocity, we know what it means to sacrifice and deny ourselves in ways we wouldn’t otherwise. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

2 " Grace does not make sin safe. Grace does make sinners safe. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

3 " Men, let me plead with you: The greatest fight of your life is not lust. You may think it is, but it isn’t. The greatest fight of your life will be rejecting the passivity that has infected your heart since the fall. Your natural default, especially as it pertains to sacrificial leadership of your wife, will be to mutely witness. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

4 " Most people are pleasant when the world is going the way they want. But a person’s character can be seen most clearly when the brokenness of the world has invaded his or her peace, when the way he or she thinks things ought to be is interrupted, disrupted, and dismantled. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

5 " The longing in a single person’s heart for a wife or a husband finds its root in God’s glory. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

6 " Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired and success achieved.” The "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

7 " What made me love Christ wasn’t that all of a sudden I figured out how to do life. What made me love Christ is that when I was at my worst, when I was at my lowest point, when I absolutely could not clean myself up and there was nothing anybody could do with me, right at that moment, Christ said, “I’ll take that one. That’s the one I want. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

8 " When we commit to a spouse for life, we are agreeing to enter a sacred union between two sinners and Jesus, and when you’ve got two sinners walking together over the years, you will see just how sinful he or she—and you—can be. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

9 " So quit looking for 'the one'. You have a better chance of finding an Oompa Loompa riding a unicorn, fighting Bigfoot. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

10 " Sex is a gift from God. It is meant to nurture intimacy in a marriage and forge a bonding of souls. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

11 " You don’t really need to make a vow to stick with someone in the best of times. The inclination to run doesn’t exist then. It’s the low times the covenant is made for. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

12 " Really, all frustration is birthed out of unmet expectations, and so is nearly every conflict. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

13 " In too many marital conflicts, we work too hard at winning the argument and too little at winning the heart. You can express your feelings and thoughts, even share criticisms and complaints, but the end goal of marital conflict should be care for your spouse’s soul, not trying to rack up the most points. Seeking to win is not love. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

14 " God has seen our unloveliness—the deep brokenness and rebellion in our hearts—and instead of withdrawing, he pursues us to the beautiful end. He made an eternal commitment to sinners because of his great love for us. And because grace is true, you can face the world with all of its dangers and troubles, knowing you have been established forever as blameless by the holy groom, Jesus Christ. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

15 " Relationships, sex, and intimacy are God’s ideas, and even though our selfish rebellion fractured God’s good design, God reconciled everything back to himself through the life, death, and resurrection of his Son, Jesus Christ. This includes sex and relationships! Our gracious God has not left us in the dark. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

16 " When we learn to respond to each other rather than react, we will move much more quickly in our conflict toward resolution and reconciliation. Reactions only stoke the fires of conflict; responses, particularly godly ones, help us snuff out the conflict. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

17 " nobody told me the second I gave my life to him, he would start tilling up the very deep places of my heart, revealing the darkest, nastiest things. Nor was I told about the stuff that would come to the surface so that I could deal with it and find my way to joy, through the cross. No one really preached that message. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

18 " I think that church membership is a huge consideration, precisely because there is no such thing as a perfect church, and in our day and age in the West, we have so many options to choose from. Churches are full of sinners, so there will always be some messiness in a church. Churches are like families that way. So when a person stays in a church for a long period of time, there is evidence that she has been able to see that everything’s not perfect, but she nevertheless said, “I’m going to stay. I’m going to try to make this work. My commitment is more important than my desire to run away. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

19 " Because marriage is meant to reflect the great sacrificial and sanctifying love Christ has for his church, it makes sense to connect your married life to a local Christian congregation. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption

20 " Proverbs 31:30: “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption