" Men, let me plead with you: The greatest fight of your life is not lust. You may think it is, but it isn’t. The greatest fight of your life will be rejecting the passivity that has infected your heart since the fall. Your natural default, especially as it pertains to sacrificial leadership of your wife, will be to mutely witness. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption