" nobody told me the second I gave my life to him, he would start tilling up the very deep places of my heart, revealing the darkest, nastiest things. Nor was I told about the stuff that would come to the surface so that I could deal with it and find my way to joy, through the cross. No one really preached that message. "

― Matt Chandler , The Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption