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81 " Ser pasiva es permitir que otros decidan por ti. Ser agresiva es decidir por los otros. Ser asertiva es decidir por ti misma. "
― Edith Eger , The Choice: Embrace the Possible
82 " Editke," my teacher says, "all your ecstasy in life is going to come from the inside." It will take me years to really understand what he means. "
83 " Later I will hear that we marry our parents. But I say we marry our unfinished business. For Béla and me, our unfinished business is grief. "
84 " Todavía no sabía que las pesadillas no entienden de geografía, que la culpa y la angustia vagan sin importarles las fronteras. "
85 " The second step in the dance of freedom is learning how to take risks that are necessary to true self-realization. "
86 " Hacer lo correcto casi nunca es hacer lo que es más seguro. "
87 " Maybe to heal isn’t to erase the scar, or even to make the scar. To heal is to cherish the wound. "
88 " es más fácil hacer a alguien o a algo responsable de tu dolor que asumir la responsabilidad de poner fin a tu propio victimismo. "
89 " Los sentimientos, por muy intensos que sean, no son fatales. "
90 " Pero, tal como me enseñaron mis compañeros supervivientes, puedes vivir para vengarte del pasado o puedes vivir para enriquecer el presente. Puedes vivir en la prisión del pasado o puedes dejar que el pasado sea el trampolín que te ayude a alcanzar la vida que deseas. "
91 " Today, more than seventy years have passed. What happened can never be forgotten and can never be changed. But over time I learned that I can choose how to respond to the past. I can be miserable, or I can be hopeful—I can be depressed, or I can be happy. We always have that choice, that opportunity for control. I’m here, this is now, I have learned to tell myself, over and over, until the panicky feeling begins to ease. "
92 " Think of the family as a car where all the wheels are integrated and work together to move where it needs to go—no one wheel takes control, no one wheel bears all the weight. "
93 " when we force our truths and stories into hiding, secrets can become their own trauma, their own prison. "
94 " Often, the little upsets in our lives are emblematic of the larger losses; the seemingly insignificant worries are representative of greater pain. "
95 " (My Jungian therapist taught me something that I find quite comforting—that although it feels like the palette of human feelings is limitless, in fact every emotional shade, like every color, is derived from just a few primary emotions: sad, mad, glad, scared. For those just learning an emotional vocabulary, as I was, it’s less overwhelming to learn to identify only four feelings.) "
96 " Simplemente, recuerda: nadie puede quitarte lo que pones en tu mente "
97 " Con mucha frecuencia, nuestra infelicidad se debe a que estamos asumiendo demasiada responsabilidad o demasiado poca. "
98 " Tal vez sea un estudio de las cosas que no tenemos pero que nos gustaría tener y de las cosas que tenemos pero que nos gustaría no tener "
99 " Si no nos permitimos afligirnos por nuestras pérdidas, heridas y decepciones, estamos consenados a revivirlas "
100 " Si sobrevivo hoy, mañana seré libre "