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181 " Queremos ser capaces de ver algo aparte de la muerte. De modo que acordamos tácitamente no hablar de nada que pueda reventar la burbuja de la supervivencia. "
― Edith Eger , The Choice: Embrace the Possible
182 " Hay diferentes formas de salir adelante. Yo tendré que encontrar mi propia manera de vivir con lo que ha sucedido. Todavía no sé cuál es. "
183 " «En realidad no importaba lo que esperábamos de la vida, sino lo que la vida esperaba de nosotros», escribe Viktor Frankl en El hombre en busca de sentido. "
184 " When? In Gone with the Wind, my mother’s favorite book, Scarlett O’Hara, when confronted with a difficulty, says, “I’ll think about it tomorrow … After all, tomorrow is another day.” If we are to evolve instead of revolve, it’s time to take action now. "
185 " I can see that Dr. Mengele, the seasoned killer who just this morning murdered my mother, is more pitiful than me. I am free in my mind, which he can never be. He will always have to live with what he’s done. He is more a prisoner than I am. "
186 " I also want to say that there is no hierarchy of suffering. There’s nothing that makes my pain worse or better than yours, no graph on which we can plot the relative importance of one sorrow versus another. "
187 " La libertad significa armarnos de valor para desmantelar la prisión pieza por pieza "
188 " Nothing is gained if we close our eyes to wrong, if we give someone a pass, if we dismiss accountability. But as my fellow survivors taught me, you can live to avenge the past, or you "
189 " there is no hierarchy of suffering. There’s nothing that makes my pain worse or better than yours, no graph on which we can plot the relative importance of one sorrow versus another. "
190 " Cuando la muerte es la respuesta a cada pregunta, ¿para qué vas a andar? ¿Para qué vas a hablar si cualquier interacción con los vivos demuestra que deambulas por el mundo en compañía de una congregación de fantasmas cada vez más numerosa? ¿Por qué echar de menos a alguien en concreto cuando todo el mundo tiene a tantas personas por las que llorar? "
191 " can live to enrich the present. You can live in the prison of the past, or you can let the past be the springboard that helps you reach the life you want now. "
192 " Más adelante oiré que se dice que nos casamos con nuestros padres. Pero yo digo que nos casamos con nuestros temas no resueltos. "
193 " Only after many years did I come to understand that running away doesn’t heal pain. It makes the pain worse. In America I was farther geographically than I had ever been from my former prison. But here I became more psychologically imprisoned than I was before. In running from the past—from my fear—I didn’t find freedom. I made a cell of my dread and sealed the lock with silence. "
194 " life, it’s that sometimes the worst moments in our lives, the moments that set us spinning with ugly desires, that threaten to unglue us with the sheer impossibility of the pain we must endure, are in fact the moments that bring us to understand our worth. It’s as if we become aware of ourselves as a bridge between all that’s been and all that will be. We become aware of all we’ve received and what we can choose—or choose not—to perpetuate. It’s like vertigo, thrilling and terrifying, the past and the future surrounding us like a vast but traversable canyon. Small as we are in the big scheme of universe and time, each of us is a little mechanism that keeps the whole wheel spinning. "
195 " Perfectionism is the belief that something is broken—you. So you dress up your brokenness with degrees, achievements, accolades, pieces of paper, none of which can fix what you think you are fixing. In trying to combat my low self-esteem, I was actually reinforcing my sense of unworthiness. In learning to offer my patients total love and acceptance, I fortunately learned the importance of offering the same to myself. "
196 " the problem wasn’t that they sang these songs to me—the problem was that I believed them. "
197 " Life will be good again.’ And you said, ‘If you can survive this, you can survive anything. "
198 " Far from diminishing pain, whatever we deny ourselves the opportunity to accept becomes as inescapable as brick walls and steel bars. When we don’t allow ourselves to grieve our losses, wounds, and disappointments, we are doomed to keep reliving them. Freedom lies in learning to embrace what happened. Freedom means we muster the courage to dismantle the prison, brick by brick. "
199 " Lo irónico de la libertad es que resulta más difícil encontrar una esperanza y un objetivo. "
200 " Me encuentro bajo coacción, esa forma de ser que no es autoritaria ni dominante, pero tampoco cobarde ni débil. Ser pasiva es permitir que otros decidan por ti. Ser agresiva es decidir por los otros. Ser asertiva es decidir por ti misma. Y confiar en que eso basta, que tú bastas. "