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The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired QUOTES

1 " A colleague and friend, Jack Kornfield, has a great way of thinking about this important process: Forgiveness is giving up all hope for a better past. In this way, we forgive not to condone, not to say it was fine, but to let go of false illusions that we can change the past. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

2 " Predictable care that supports a healthy and empowering relationship embodies what we call the “Four S’s”—helping kids feel (1) safe—they feel protected and sheltered from harm; (2) seen—they know you care about them and pay attention to them; (3) soothed—they know you’ll be there for them when they’re hurting; and (4) secure—based on the other S’s, they trust you to predictably help them feel “at home” in the world, then learn to help themselves feel safe, seen, and soothed. When we can offer kids the Four S’s, making repairs whenever the inevitable ruptures in these connections with our children may occur, we help create what’s called “secure attachment,” and it’s absolutely key to optimal healthy development. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

3 " la conciencia se fragmenta y eso da lugar a la experiencia de una mente disociada con problemas para regular la emoción, tratar con otras personas, manejar la frustración y simplemente avanzar en la vida de una manera coherente. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

4 " neuroplasticidad y la teoría del apego, deseamos subrayar una máxima inspiradora: la historia no determina el destino. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

5 " Podemos comprender nuestro pasado, y si lo comprendemos, no regirá nuestro presente y nuestro futuro. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

6 " Recapitulando, consiste en lo siguiente: la meta última de la labor de los padres es el apego seguro de nuestros hijos. Eso se logra mediante la presencia y la creación de las cuatro condiciones. Para eso es necesario que encontremos el sentido de nuestras propias narraciones personales, la historia de nuestras relaciones y nuestro apego. Así pues, ahí es donde empieza todo: en la comprensión de la clase de apego que recibimos de nuestros cuidadores. La sucesión "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

7 " By getting clear on your own experiences, and developing a coherent narrative about them—making sense of what happened to you and how it influenced your development—you can earn the type of attachment approach that allows you to learn how to parent in ways that are completely different from, and much healthier than, the ways you were raised. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

8 " You can become the safe harbor for your own children that you never had as a child. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

9 " It means being there for your kids. It means being physically present, as well as providing a quality of presence. Provide it when you’re meeting their needs; when you’re expressing your love to them; when you’re disciplining them; when you’re laughing together; even when you’re arguing with them. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

10 " ¿Qué es lo más importante que puedo hacer por mis hijos para ayudarlos a salir adelante y a sentirse a gusto en el mundo? "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

11 " It is, ironically, “safer” to believe that the reason your needs are not being met is because there is something wrong with you, rather than that your parents—whom you depend on for your very survival—are actually not dependable. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

12 " añadiremos que casi todas las preguntas y dilemas con respecto a la labor de los padres se circunscriben a la idea de relación, así que en eso vamos a centrarnos aquí. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

13 " No existe una forma de criar a los hijos libre de defectos. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

14 " Estar presente significa lo que parece. Significa estar ahí para tus hijos. Significa estar presente en sentido físico, así como proporcionarles una presencia de calidad. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

15 " Estar presente significa poner todo tu ser –tu atención y tu conciencia– cuando estés con tu hijo. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

16 " Debemos procurar que nuestros hijos, además de sentirse seguros y vistos, se sientan consolados en sus horas más difíciles. Eso no significa –ni mucho menos– que los rescatemos de toda situación dolorosa e incómoda. Es un hecho que a menudo cuando más aprenden y maduran "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

17 " Your job as a parent is not to prevent them from experiencing setbacks and failures, but to give them the tools and emotional resilience they need to weather life’s storms, and then to walk beside them through those storms. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

18 " La mente en desarrollo: cómo interactúan las relaciones y el cerebro para modelar nuestro ser. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

19 " Utiliza los momentos de disciplina como oportunidades para enseñar y crear aptitudes. Modela la amabilidad, el respeto y el cuidado de uno mismo. Discúlpate cuando pierdas una oportunidad de conectar o metas la pata de otra manera. Ellos "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

20 " ayudar a los niños a sentirse 1) seguros: se sienten protegidos y libres de todo mal; 2) vistos: saben que les importas y les prestas atención; 3) consolados: saben que estarás a su lado en los malos momentos; y 4) a salvo: basándose en las otras condiciones, confían en que, previsiblemente, los ayudes a sentirse «a gusto» en el mundo, y después aprenden a ayudarse a sí mismos a sentirse seguros, vistos y consolados. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired