" By getting clear on your own experiences, and developing a coherent narrative about them—making sense of what happened to you and how it influenced your development—you can earn the type of attachment approach that allows you to learn how to parent in ways that are completely different from, and much healthier than, the ways you were raised. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired