Haemin Sunim QUOTES

143 " The success rate for meeting the right person is one in ten. Only after you have met nine other people does one appear who you like and who also likes you back. "

― Haemin Sunim , Love for Imperfect Things / The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down

144 " When faced with a problem in a relationship, it will never be solved if you begin by asking, “Why can’t he understand me?” or “Why won’t he just do what I say?” It is because this approach begins with a demand. Instead, begin by asking, “What is it that makes him unhappy and feel misunderstood?” or “What past experience is making him respond in this way?” When you begin with the intention of understanding him, your heart is released from the prison of your views and opens up to feel his pain. People who easily ignore others do so because they are afraid of being ignored. "

― Haemin Sunim , The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader

145 " Conhecemos o mundo apenas pela janela da mente.
Quando a mente está agitada, o mundo também está.
Quando a mente está em paz, o mundo também está.
Conhecer a nossa mente é tão importante quanto tentar mudar o mundo. "

― Haemin Sunim , The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader

146 " The reason you regard me as pure and compassionate is that you are pure and compassionate yourself. "

― Haemin Sunim , The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader

147 " Dù có đi đến đâu, cũng đừng làm khách, mà hãy hành động như chủ nhà.
...
Nếu nghĩ rằng mình là khách thì bạn sẽ không biết làm gì,
Nhưng khi nghĩ mình là chủ nhà thì bạn sẽ tự giác trong mọi việc.
...
Khi làm việc trong công ty hay ở bất cứ đâu cũng đều có cùng quy luật như thế. "

― Haemin Sunim , The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader

148 " Because each person’s situation is different, it’s difficult to draw any firm conclusions, but one of the known causes of becoming a workaholic is growing up feeling unworthy of your parents’ attention unless you do something great, as opposed to feeling loved and cared for unconditionally. "

― Haemin Sunim , Love for Imperfect Things: How to Accept Yourself in a World Striving for Perfection

149 " We change without realizing it. We are in the midst of change even now. "

― Haemin Sunim , The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader

150 " Se nos sentirmos satisfeitos, poderemos relaxar de nosso esforço contínuo e dar boas-vindas à serenidade.
Se nos sentirmos satisfeitos, poderemos desfrutar o tempo com a pessoa que está ao nosso lado.
Se nos sentirmos satisfeitos, poderemos fazer as pazes com o passado e nos desapegar de nossa bagagem. "

― Haemin Sunim , The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader

151 " If we think: I'll just do it this way for now and fix it later.

It usually does not happen, because later we may not have the motivation to fix it, or we just get used to the way it is. "

― Haemin Sunim , The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader

152 " Se mesmo depois de muitas tentativas você não consegue mudar uma situação
ruim, é preciso mudar sua forma de enxergá-la.
Nada é intrinsecamente bom ou mau.
Bom e mau são conceitos relativos.
Compare a sua situação com a de alguém que a seu ver esteja pior que você.
Agora a sua já não parece tão ruim assim "

― Haemin Sunim , The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader

153 " the art of maintaining a good relationship can be compared to sitting by a fireplace. If we sit too close for too long, we become hot and possibly burned. If we sit too far away, we can not feel the warmth. "

― Haemin Sunim , Love for Imperfect Things / The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down

154 " No matter what we do, the top button of our business must be fastened properly. If we think, “I’ll just do it this way for now and fix it later,” it usually does not happen, because later we may not have the motivation to fix it, or we just get used to the way it is. "

― Haemin Sunim , The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader

155 " Quando estiver estressado, tenha consciência do seu estresse.
Quando estiver irritado, tenha consciência da sua irritação.
Quando estiver com raiva, tenha consciência da sua raiva.
Quando você toma consciência desses sentimentos, já não está mais perdido neles.
A consciência permite que você os testemunhe de fora.
Ela é inerentemente pura, como o céu aberto.
Estresse, irritação e raiva podem deixar o céu nublado por um tempo, mas não podem poluí-lo.
Emoções negativas vêm e vão como nuvens,
mas o céu aberto permanece. "

― Haemin Sunim , The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader

156 " The end of a relationship reveals what we are made of. Move away, just one step, from your stubbornness and anger. That one step is more significant than ten steps when things are fine. It will diminish your pain and rescue you from insanity. The heart is slower than the mind. The mind knows you must part ways, but your heart does not. This is because your feelings are settled deeper in your heart. When one day, after many days of disappointment, your partner deals the final blow, the light finally dims in your heart. Fallen gingko nuts are like a failed relationship. Once so lovely hanging from the tree, they emit a stink as they are crushed underfoot. Be as gentle in ending a relationship as you were in starting it. Proof of having really loved: You do not speak ill of your ex even after your relationship has ended. Sometimes, after a relationship is over, you catch yourself thinking, “I hope she is happy,” without bitterness. This is a sign you have moved on. Pain caused by one person can be healed by another. But before you go out to meet someone new, make sure to give yourself time to be whole again. Otherwise you may end up using the new person you meet. An exceptional relationship is not one with a good beginning but one with a good ending. Relationships often begin accidentally, but when it comes to ending them, we usually have choices. Choose the ending wisely. "

― Haemin Sunim , The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader

157 " If you want revenge because your feelings are hurt, all you can see is your own suffering "

― Haemin Sunim , The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down 16-Month 2018-2019 Wall Calendar: September 2018-December 2019

158 " Instead of being the smartest person in the room, quick to critique others, be the warmhearted friend, bringing people together and sharing things. Be the sensitive neighbor, capable of feeling the suffering of others. "

― Haemin Sunim , The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader

159 " As lembranças lhe causam dor?
Tente permanecer no presente.
Traga sua atenção para o aqui e agora.
Perceba que seus pensamentos se acalmam quando você se concentra no presente.
À medida que seus pensamentos se tranquilizam, as lembranças também se
aquietam.
Porque as lembranças, em essência, são pensamentos "

― Haemin Sunim , The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader

160 " Too many choices make people unhappy "

― Haemin Sunim , The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader