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" The challenge of parenting lies in finding the balance between nurturing, protecting, and guiding, on one hand, and allowing your child to explore, experiment, and become an independent, unique person, on the other. "
― Jane Nelsen , Positive Discipline for Preschoolers: For Their Early Years - Raising Children Who Are Responsible, Respectful, and Resourceful
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" Where did parents get the crazy idea that in order to make children behave, parents should make them feel shame, humiliation, or even pain? Children are more motivated to cooperate, learn new skills, and offer affection and respect when they feel encouraged, connected, and loved. "
― Jane Nelsen , Positive Discipline for Preschoolers: For Their Early Years - Raising Children Who Are Responsible, Respectful, and Resourceful
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" A perfect child is often pictured as the one who quietly obeys his parents, doesn’t fight with his brothers or sisters, does his chores without complaining, saves his money, does homework without being reminded—and who gets good grades, is athletic, and is popular. Does this mean that a child who doesn’t fit this description is imperfect? Frankly, we worry about the child who fits this fantasy description. This is usually the child who does not feel secure enough to test power boundaries and find out who she is apart from her parents and teachers, who is afraid to make mistakes or risk disapproval. "
― Jane Nelsen , Positive Discipline for Preschoolers: For Their Early Years - Raising Children Who Are Responsible, Respectful, and Resourceful
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" Without recognizing the belief behind the behavior, some adults react to the behavior with some kind of punishment, such as blaming, shaming, or inflicting physical pain. This kind of response only confirms a student’s belief that he or she doesn’t belong, creating a vicious cycle that leads to more misbehavior. In this cycle the student’s deep need for belonging, contribution, and skills is not being addressed at all. "
― Jane Nelsen , Positive Discipline Tools for Teachers: Effective Classroom Management for Social, Emotional, and Academic Success