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Melody Beattie QUOTES

Melody Beattie QUOTES

101 " Stay conscious of who you travel with on this journey. See who you’re attracted to and notice who is attracted to you. See how much better you feel when you surround yourself with the energy of love. "

― Melody Beattie , Journey to the Heart: Daily Meditations on the Path to Freeing Your Soul

102 " Today, God, help me to know that it is okay to allow myself to be human. Help me not to feel guilty or punish myself when I need to “fall apart. "

― Melody Beattie , The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency (Hazelden Meditation Series)

103 " Today, I will remember that there is no situation that can’t be benefited by taking care of myself. "

― Melody Beattie , The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency (Hazelden Meditation Series)

104 " The big reason for not repressing feelings is that emotional withdrawal causes us to lose our positive feelings. We lose the ability to feel. Sometimes, this may be a welcome relief if the pain becomes too great or too constant, but this is not a good plan for living. We may shut down our deep needs—our need to love and be loved—when we shut down our emotions. We may lose our ability to enjoy sex, the human touch. We lose the ability to feel close to people, otherwise known as intimacy. We lose our capacity to enjoy the pleasant things in life. "

― Melody Beattie , Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

105 " It’s not my place to tell him to stop drinking,” Shelly said. “But being with him or talking to him when he’s drunk is my business.” That’s the difference between boundaries and controlling. We can’t make a person stop drinking. But we can refuse to talk to or date that person. Boundaries concern our behavior—what we will or won’t do. It’s not a boundary if we can’t enforce it. Be clear. If people have room to misinterpret, they will. People hear what they want to and what causes the least pain. We won’t be clear with others if we’re not clear with ourselves. Sometimes we don’t like their behavior, but we don’t want to lose the relationship, so our boundaries are murky. "

― Melody Beattie , The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today's Generation

106 " Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress. "

― Melody Beattie

107 " We can let ourselves enjoy life. If we want something and can afford it, buy it. If we want to do something that is legal and harmless, do it. When we’re actually involved with doing something that is recreational, don’t find ways to feel bad. Let go and enjoy life. "

― Melody Beattie , Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

108 " The test, the mark, of a person that's on a spiritual path is whether they can live in harmony. "

― Melody Beattie , Playing It by Heart: Taking Care of Yourself No Matter What

109 " Reactionaries...just feeling urgent and compulsive is enough to hurt us. Someone does something, so we must do something back Someone says something, so we must say something back. Someone feels a certain way, so we must feel a certain way. WE JUMP INTO THE FIRST FEELING THAT COMES OUR WAY AND THEN WALLOW IT. "

― Melody Beattie , Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

110 " I’d like to make a motion that we face reality. —BOB NEWHART, FROM THE BOB NEWHART SHOW "

― Melody Beattie , Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

111 " I don’t think love has to hurt as much as it did in the past. I don’t think we have to allow love to hurt us as much as it has. We certainly don’t have to let it destroy us. "

― Melody Beattie , Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

112 " It’s okay to succeed, to have good things, and to have loving relationships that work. "

― Melody Beattie , Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

113 " Some of us may be without a special person to love. That can be difficult, but it is not an impossible situation. We may want and need someone to love, but I think it helps if we love ourselves enough. It’s okay to be in a relationship, but it’s also okay to not be in a relationship. Find friends to love, be loved by, and who think we are worthwhile. Love ourselves and know we are worthwhile. Use our time alone as a breather. Let go. Learn the lessons we are to be learning. Grow. Develop. Work on ourselves, so when love comes along, it enhances a full and interesting life. Love shouldn’t be the concern of our whole life or an escape from an unpleasant life. Strive toward goals. Have fun. Trust God and His timing. He cares and knows all about our needs and wants. Whatever "

― Melody Beattie , Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

114 " DECEMBER 31 Honor the Ending “How was your trip?” a friend asked, as my trip drew to a close. I thought for a moment, then the answer came easily. “It had its ups and downs,” I said. “There were times I felt exhilarated and sure I was on track. Other days I felt lost. Confused. I’d fall into bed at night certain that this whole trip was a mistake and a waste. But I’d wake up in the morning, something would happen, and I’d see how I’d been guided all along.” The journey of a year is drawing to a close. Cherish the moments, all of them, even the ups and downs. Cherish the places you’ve visited, the people you’ve seen. Say good-bye to those whose journeys have called them someplace else. Know you can always call them back by thinking loving thoughts. Know all those you love will be there for you when you need them most. Honor the lessons you’ve learned, and the people who helped you learn them. Honor the journey your soul mapped out for you. Trust all the places you’ve been. Make a scrapbook in your heart to help you remember. Look back for a moment. Reflect in peace. Then let this year draw to a close. All parts of the journey are sacred and holy. You’ve learned that by now. Take time to honor this ending—though it’s never really the end. Go to sleep tonight. When you wake up tomorrow a new adventure will begin. Remember the words you were told when this last adventure began, the words whispered quietly to your heart: Let the journey unfold. Let it be magical. The way has been prepared. People will be expecting you. "

― Melody Beattie , Journey to the Heart: Daily Meditations on the Path to Freeing Your Soul

115 " And gratitude is the solution. Being grateful for what we have today doesn’t mean we have to have that forever. It means we acknowledge that what we have today is what we’re supposed to have today. There is enough, we’re enough, and all we need will come to us. We don’t have to be desperate, fearful, jealous, resentful, or miserly. We don’t have to worry about what someone else has; they don’t have ours. All we need to do is appreciate and take care of what we have today. The trick is, we need to be grateful first—before we get anything else, not afterward. "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

116 " Detachment involves “present moment living”—living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We relinquish regrets over the past and fears about the future. We make the most of each day. Detachment "

― Melody Beattie , Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

117 " Others do not have our magic. We have our magic. It is in us. "

― Melody Beattie , The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency (Hazelden Meditation Series)

118 " We don’t have to take rejection as a reflection of our self-worth. If somebody who is important (or even someone unimportant) to you rejects you or your choices, you are still real, and you are still worth every bit as much as you would be if you had not been rejected. Feel any feelings that go with rejection; talk about your thoughts; but don’t forfeit your self-esteem to another’s disapproval or rejection of who you are or what you have done. Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay. If you have done something inappropriate or you need to solve a problem or change a behavior, then take appropriate steps to take care of yourself. But don’t reject yourself, and don’t give so much power to other people’s rejection of you. "

― Melody Beattie , Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

119 " they had felt so much hurt that hostility was their only defense against being crushed again. "

― Melody Beattie , Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

120 " Work at learning to have fun. Apply yourself with dedication to learning enjoyment. Work as hard at learning to have fun as you did at feeling miserable. "

― Melody Beattie , The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency (Hazelden Meditation Series)