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Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time QUOTES

Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time QUOTES

1 " The lesson I was learning involved the idea that I could feel compassion for people without acting on it. "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

2 " And gratitude is the solution. Being grateful for what we have today doesn’t mean we have to have that forever. It means we acknowledge that what we have today is what we’re supposed to have today. There is enough, we’re enough, and all we need will come to us. We don’t have to be desperate, fearful, jealous, resentful, or miserly. We don’t have to worry about what someone else has; they don’t have ours. All we need to do is appreciate and take care of what we have today. The trick is, we need to be grateful first—before we get anything else, not afterward. "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

3 " We go back . . . and back . . . and back . . . until we discover the exuberant, unencumbered, delightful and lovable child that was, and still is, in us. And once we find it, we love and cherish it, and never, never let it go. "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

4 " On our worst days, we still look for something we’ve done toward recovery. Sometimes the best we can do is feel good about what we did not do. "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

5 " We try to do something each day toward recovery. "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

6 " Struggling is okay. Back-stepping is okay. Small bits of progress are not only okay, they’re admirable. "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

7 " Where we are today is where we’re meant to be. It’s where we need to be to get where we’re going tomorrow. And that place we’re going tomorrow will be better than any we’ve been before "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

8 " Do you know you have a right to become as healthy as you want, no matter what your family does or doesn’t do? Do you know you can love "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

9 " How does one become a butterfly?” she asked pensively. “You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.” —TRINA PAULUS, HOPE FOR THE FLOWERS "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

10 " Deprived thinking turns good things into less or nothing. Grateful thinking turns things into more. "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

11 " I will take a long look at where I am today and be grateful for my place. It’s right for me now, and is preparing me for the adventure ahead. —FROM EACH DAY A NEW BEGINNING "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

12 " I learned how to make something out of almost nothing, instead of nothing out of something. "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

13 " In the morning and throughout our day, we lovingly and gently ask ourselves what we can do for ourselves that would feel good. We ask ourselves what we need to do to take care of ourselves. When we hurt, we ask what would help us feel better.15 We give ourselves encouragement and support. We tell ourselves we can do it, we can do it good enough, and things will work out. When we make a mistake, we tell ourselves that’s okay. "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

14 " Anger, rage, complaining, and whining are clues to boundaries we need to set. "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

15 " Boundaries are to take care of ourselves, not to control others. If we set a boundary not to be around practicing alcoholics, it isn’t to force Harvey to stop drinking. Harvey can choose to drink or not drink. Our boundary gives us a guideline to make our choice—whether we want to be around Harvey. "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

16 " in the heat of the moment, we can slow down and ask ourselves these questions: • Why is the other person acting this way? What does he need? • Why am I acting this way? What do I need? • Is there some way we could solve the problem and meet both our needs? • Is there an underlying common need? The more emotionally charged the situation, the more we need to stay focused on our goals. "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time

17 " We make ourselves feel safe and loved. We do all those wonderful things for ourselves that we wish someone else would have done for us. "

― Melody Beattie , Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time