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" As in other exercises my father taught me, the way to begin is to sit up straight, breathe normally, and gradually allow your mind to relax. “With your mind at rest,” he instructed those of us in his little teaching room in Nepal, “just allow yourself to become aware of all the thoughts, feelings, and sensations passing through it. And as you watch them pass, simply ask yourself, ‘Is there a difference between the mind and the thoughts that pass through it? Is there any difference between the thinker and the thoughts perceived by the thinker?’ Continue watching your thoughts with these questions in mind for about three minutes or so, and then stop. "
― Yongey Mingyur , The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness
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" By habit we perceive ourselves and the world around us as solid, real, and enduring. Yet without much effort, we can easily determine that not one aspect within the whole world’s system exists independent of change. I had just been in one physical location, and now I was in another; I had experienced different states of mind. We have all grown from babies to adults, lost loved ones, watched children grow, known changes in weather, in political regimes, in styles of music and fashion, in everything. Despite appearances, no aspect of life ever stays the same. The deconstruction of any one object—no matter how dense it appears, such as an ocean liner, our bodies, a skyscraper, or an oak tree—will reveal the appearance of solidity to be as illusory as permanence. Everything that looks substantial will break down into molecules, and into atoms, and into electrons, protons, and neutrons. And every phenomenon exists in interdependence with myriad other forms. Every identification of any one form has meaning only in relationship to another. Big only has meaning in relation to small. To mistake our habitual misperceptions for the whole of reality is what we mean by ignorance, and these delusions define the world of confusion, or samsara. "
― Yongey Mingyur , In Love with the World: A Monk's Journey Through the Bardos of Living and Dying
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" Because ego is frequently identified in negative terms, especially among Buddhists, my father made a point of reminding me that we also have a healthy ego—or a healthy sense of self. This relates to aspects of self that intuitively know right from wrong, that can discern between protection and harm, that instinctively know what is virtuous and wholesome. We trip ourselves up only when we become attached to these basic instincts and create inflated stories around them. For example, I had used ego in a positive way to explore, and then maintain, monastic discipline. But if I were to think, Oh, I am such a pure monk, I maintain my vows so perfectly, then I would be in trouble. When I examined my difficulties with too much newness all at once, I could see ego-self as a process, not as a solid thing. "
― Yongey Mingyur , In Love with the World: A Monk's Journey Through the Bardos of Living and Dying
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" За всё то время, что я знаю Ринпоче, меня больше всего впечатляла его способность встречать любой вызов не только с неизменной выдержкой, но и с острым, очень своевременным чувством юмора. Не раз, когда во время своего пребывания в Непале я корпел над записями нашей беседы, состоявшейся накануне, Ринпоче делал вид, что засыпает или собирается выскочить из окна. Со временем я понял, что он просто подтрунивал надо мной из-за того, что я так серьёзно отношусь к работе, самым непосредственным образом показывая, что для буддийской практики необходима определённая степень легкомыслия. Ибо в первом учении, данным Буддой по достижении просветления, говорится, что если суть обычной жизни состоит в страдании, то самым действенным противоядием от него является смех — в особенности смех над собой. Каждая частичка опыта становится ярче, когда вы научились смеяться над собой. Это, пожалуй, самый важный урок, который Ринпоче преподал мне за то время, что я провёл с ним в Непале <...>. "
― Yongey Mingyur , Buddha, Brain and Neurophysiology of Happiness. How to change lives for the better. Practical Guide
