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The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence QUOTES

The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence QUOTES

1 " When kindness comes at the expense of truth, it is not a kindness worth having. And when generosity leads to silence or abuse, it is not a generosity worth giving. "

― Rachel Simmons , The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence

2 " When kindness comes at the expense of truth, it is not a kindness worth having. "

― Rachel Simmons , The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence

3 " Many of the most accomplished girls are disconnecting from the truest parts of themselves, sacrificing essential self-knowledge to the pressure of who they think they ought to be. "

― Rachel Simmons , The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence

4 " Shame is a virus that creates paralysis in its hosts. When you're busy telling yourself what a bad person you are, you expend most of your energy obsessing over your self- not what you may have done wrong, not what you can do to fix it. For this reason, shame creates a moat around girls' potential. It limits their ability or willingness to face challenges. It makes them want to be alone, isolating them from friends, their most important buffer against stress. Shame is therefore a major threat to girls' resilience. "

― Rachel Simmons , The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence

5 " Girls like Caroline and Lily are constantly performing, as much for the Good Girl they think they should be as for the adults and peers who look on. They have spent their lives growing internally dependent on external rewards: pats on the back A's, club presidencies, Most Valuable Player trophies. They become more concerned with how they appear and should be than who they are What other think and feel replaces what is true for them. "

― Rachel Simmons , The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence

6 " Parents are satisfied only if their children are gifted or exceptional (or diagnosed with a treatable problem that the right pill cocktail can restore to excellence). "

― Rachel Simmons , The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence

7 " Perceiving a choice between her feelings and her relationships, Dana chose to be liked by others. But the self she displayed was a mask of the person she though others wanted her to be. The Curse of the Good Girl obscured and shamed the most important parts of who she was. "

― Rachel Simmons , The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence

8 " ...with her self-esteem perilously balanced on her excellence, she could only interpret failure as catastrophic. Lilly shamed herself when she made a mistake, becoming upset not only about her performance but about who she was as a human being. ...She reached her heights at a steep internal price. Her Good Girl thinking forced her to walk an unforgiving line; one misstep would plummet her to the snapping jaws of failure. ...Her unreasonable expectations kept her shackled to failure, preventing her from shaking off a mistake and moving forward quickly. "

― Rachel Simmons , The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence

9 " Many teachers, especially those in more affluent communities, believe they are treated no better than a customer-service representative at a store. "

― Rachel Simmons , The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence