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161 " Il y a quelque chose de paternaliste dans l’idée que les femmes ont besoin d’être « défendues et vénérées » parce que ce sont des femmes. Cela me fait penser à la galanterie, et le postulat de la galanterie, c’est la faiblesse féminine. "
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie , Dear Ijeawele, or a Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions
162 " Apprends-lui à ne pas se soucier de plaire. Elle n’a pas à se rendre aimable mais à être pleinement elle-même, une personne sincère et consciente que les autres sont humains autant qu’elle. "
163 " Nous vivons dans un monde rempli de femmes incapables de respirer librement parce qu’on les a conditionnées depuis si longtemps à se contorsionner pour s’efforcer de se rendre aimables. "
164 " Chudi devrait faire tout ce que la biologie lui autorise (c’est-à-dire tout sauf allaiter). "
165 " Philip May is known in politics as a man who has taken a back seat and allowed his wife, Theresa, to shine.” Allowed. Now let us reverse it. Theresa May has allowed her husband to shine. Does it make sense? If Philip May were prime minister, perhaps we might hear that his wife had “supported” him from the background, or that she was “behind” him, or that she’d “stood by his side,” but we would never hear that she had “allowed” him to shine. “Allow” is a troubling word. “Allow” is about power. "
166 " Saintliness is not a prerequisite for dignity. "
167 " Books will help her understand and question the world, help her express herself, and help her in whatever she wants to become—a chef, a scientist, a singer, all benefit from the skills that reading brings. "
168 " we teach girls that a large component of their ability to love is their ability to sacrifice their selves. We do not teach this to boys. "
169 " if you criticize X in women but do not criticize X in men, then you do not have a problem with X, you have a problem with women. "
170 " Everybody will have an opinion about what you should do, but what matters is what you want for yourself, and not what others want you to want. Please reject the idea that motherhood and work are mutually exclusive. "
171 " Dile a Chizalum que las mujeres no necesitan que las reverencien ni las defiendan; solo necesitan que las traten como a seres humanos iguales. En la idea de que las mujeres necesitan ser «reverenciadas» y «defendidas» por el hecho de ser mujeres subyace una actitud de superioridad. Consigue que los hombres piensen en caballerosidad, y la premisa de la caballerosidad es la debilidad femenina. "
172 " La triste verdad es que nuestro mundo está repleto de hombres y mujeres a quienes no les gustan las mujeres poderosas. Nos han condicionado tanto con que el poder es masculino que una mujer poderosa nos parece una aberración. Y como tal la vigilan. De una mujer poderosa nos preguntamos: ¿Es humilde? ¿Sonríe? ¿Es lo bastante agradecida? ¿Tiene también su lado doméstico? Preguntas que no nos planteamos de los hombres poderosos, lo cual prueba que no nos incomoda el poder en sí, sino las mujeres. Juzgamos más duramente a las mujeres poderosas que alos hombres poderosos. Y el feminismo light lo hace posible. "
173 " Las mujeres no necesitan que las reverencien ni las defiendan; solo necesitan que las traten como a seres humanos iguales "
174 " Enséñale a rechazar la obligación de gustar. Su trabajo no es ser deseable. Su trabajo es realizarse plenamente en un ser humano que sea sincero y consiente de la humanidad del resto de la gente "
175 " Recuerdo a un hombre que di que el período era como la mierda. Mierda sagrada, le respondí,porque no estarías aquí si no existiera "
176 " teach Chizalum that biology is an interesting and fascinating subject, but she should never accept it as justification for any social norm. Because social norms are created by human beings, and there is no social norm that cannot be changed. "
177 " Teach her that saying no when no feels right is something to be proud of. "
178 " Teach her to reject likeability. Her job is not to make herself likeable, her job is to be her full self, a self that is honest and aware of the equal humanity of other people. Remember I told you how upsetting it was to me that our friend Chioma would often tell me that “people” would not “like” something I wanted to say or do? I always felt, from her, the unspoken pressure to change myself to fit some mold that would please an amorphous entity called “people.” It was upsetting because we want those close to us to encourage us to be our most authentic selves. "
179 " Wees een compleet mens. Moederschap is een prachtig geschenk, maar laat moederschap niet je enige kwaliteit zijn. Wees een compleet mens. Daar zal je kind van profiteren. "
180 " Each couple that marries should take on an entirely new surname, "