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" -Teach her never to universalize her own standards or experiences. Teach her that her standards are for her alone, and not for other people. This is the only necessary form of humility: the realization that difference is normal. Please note that I am not suggesting that you raise her to be "non-judgemental," which is a commonly used expression these days, and which slightly worries me. The general sentiment behind the idea is a fine one, but "non-judgmental" can easily devolve into meaning "don't have an opinion about anything" or "I keep my opinions to myself." And so, instead of that, what I hope for Chizalum is this: that she will be full of opinions, and that her opinions will come from an informed, humane, and broad-minded place. (page 62) "
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie , Dear Ijeawele, or a Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions
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" Enseña a Chizalum a leer. Enséñale el amor por los libros. La mejor manera de hacerlo es mediante el ejemplo. Si te ve leyendo, comprenderá que leer es valioso. Si no fuera a la escuela y solo leyera libros, posiblemente sabría más que un niño educado de manera convencional. Los libros la ayudarán a entender el mundo y cuestionárselo, la ayudarán a expresarse y la ayudarán en aquello en lo que quiera convertirse: una chef, una científica, una cantante, todas ellas se benefician de lo que se aprende leyendo. No me refiero a libros de texto. Hablo de libros que no tengan nada que ver con el colegio, autobiografías, novelas y cuentos. Si todo lo demás falla, págale para que lea. Recompénsala. "
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie , Dear Ijeawele, or a Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions