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21 " People who talk only of themselves think only of themselves. And "those people who think only of themselves," Dr. Nicholas Murray Butler, longtime president of Columbia University, said, "are hopelessly uneducated. They are not educated," said Dr. Butler, "no matter how instructed they may be. "
― Dale Carnegie , How to Win Friends and Influence People
22 " I have come to the conclusion that there is only one way under high heaven to get the best of an argument— and that is to avoid it. Avoid it as you would avoid rattlesnakes and earthquakes. "
23 " I don't blame you one iota for feeling as you do. If I were you I would undoubtedly feel just as you do."(...) You can say that and be 100 percent sincere, because if you were the other person you, of course, would feel just as he does (...) Suppose you had inherited the same body and temperament and mind (...) Suppose you had had his environment and experiences. You would then be precisely what he was - and where he was. For it is those things -and only those things - that made him what he was. (...) You deserve very little credit for being what you are - and remember, the people who come to you irritated, bigoted, unreasoning, deserve very little discredit for being what they are. "
24 " You can't win an argument. You can't because if you lose it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it. "
25 " There's magic, positive magic, in such phrases as: "I may be wrong. I frequently am. Let's examine the facts. "
26 " ان الكراهية لا تنتهي انما ينهيها الحب، و لا ينتهي الجدال بالجدال، انما باللباقة و الدبلوماسية و الرغبة الصادقة في فهم وجهة نظر الشخص الاخر "
― ديل كارنيجي , How to Win Friends and Influence People
27 " Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do. "
28 " the expression one wears on one’s face is far more important than the clothes one wears on one’s back "
29 " i really like reading books "
30 " Gostamos de continuar a acreditar naquilo que nos habituamos a aceitar como verdade, e os ressentimentos despertos quando lançam dúvidas sobre qualquer um dos nossos pressupostos levam-nos a procurar todo o tipo de desculpas para nos agarrarmos a eles. "
31 " Talk to someone about themselves and they'll listen for hours. "
32 " Personally I am very fond of strawberries and cream, but I have found that for some strange reason, fish prefer worms. So when I went fishing, I didn’t think about what I wanted. I thought about what they wanted. I didn't bait the hook with strawberries and cream. Rather, I dangled a worm or grasshopper in front of the fish and said: "Wouldn't you like to have that?"Why not use the same common sense when fishing for people? "
33 " When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity. "
34 " كن صادقا فى تقديرك و كريما فى مدحك و ستجد الناس يقدرون كلماتك و يكررونها طوال حياتهم - يكررونها حتى بعد أعوام و أعوام من نسيانك إياهم. "
35 " حاول بأمانة أن ترى الأشياء من وجهة نظر الشحص الآخر "
36 " يجب أن تجبر نفسك على أن تبتسم، ولو كنت بمفردك أجبر نفسك على أن تصفر أو تدندن بنغمة أو تغني، تصرف كما لو كنت سعيداً بالفعل، سيجعلك هذا سعيداُ فعلا "
37 " كن اكثر الناس حكمة ان استطعت و لكن لا تقل لهم ذلك "
38 " Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him. "
39 " Don’t criticize them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances. "
40 " If you teach a man anything, he will never learn. "