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1 " It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it. "
― Dale Carnegie , How to Win Friends and Influence People
2 " Don't be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid of the friends who flatter you. "
3 " A man convinced against his will Is of the same opinion still "
4 " If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes; but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent's good will. "
5 " Everybody in the world is seeking happiness—and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn't depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions. "
6 " When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity. "
7 " Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, ‘I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you. "
8 " You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. "
9 " As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation. "
10 " Could my opponents be right? Partly right? Is there truthor merit in their position or argument? Is my reaction onethat will relieve the problem, or will it just relieve any frustration? Will my reaction drive my opponents further awayor draw them closer to me? Will my reaction elevate the estimation good people have of me? Will I win or lose?What price will I have to pay if I win? If I am quiet about it,will the disagreement blow over? Is this difficult situationan opportunity for me? "
11 " By becoming interested in the cause, we are less likely to dislike the effect. "
12 " As much as we seek approval, we dread condemnation "
13 " Why talk about what we want? That is childish. Absurd. Of course, you are interested in what you want. You are eternally interested in it. But no one else is. The rest of us are just like you: we are interested in what we want. "
14 " We are gods in the chrysalis. "
15 " Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. "
16 " Let's realise that criticisms are like homing pigeons. They always return home. Let's realise that the person we are going to correct and condemn will probably justify himself o herself, and condemn us in return. "
17 " The chronic kicker, even the most violent critic, will frequently soften and be subdued in the presence of a patient, sympathetic listener— a listener who will be silent while the irate fault-finder dilates like a king cobra and spews the poison out of his system. "
18 " It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring. "
19 " The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated. "
20 " The legendary French aviation pioneer and author Antoine de Saint-Exupéry wrote: “I have no right to say or do anything that diminishes a man in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him, but what he thinks of himself. Hurting a man in his dignity is a crime. "
