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41 " depression is like a guest who shows up just when I’ve managed to forget about him "
― Haemin Sunim , Love for Imperfect Things: How to Accept Yourself in a World Striving for Perfection
42 " We are worthy of being loved not because of what we do well but because we are precious living beings. Even if you don’t achieve the perfection the world demands, your existence already has value and is worthy of love. "
43 " When you feel disappointed, and you see it’s because you expected something from someone else, consider why it is that you often rely on others to make you happy. Why is your self-reliance so low? Does it maybe relate to how you were brought up, or to a past trauma? Do you have a strong need for approval or attention from others? If you often feel disappointed in yourself, ask why you hold yourself to such a high standard. Are your expectations reasonable? When you understand yourself better, you might find it easier to deal with disappointment, and to accept and love yourself. "
44 " We can love completely,” he says, “even without complete understanding. "
45 " Give more than you receive.The more we receive, we can’t help butfeel grateful and like the person. "
46 " Let it go” is actually another way of expressing “Accept it fully. "
47 " most thoughts are personal opinions based on our limited experience "
48 " be mindful of our breathing, as it is an important bridge between body and mind. If our breathing is calm, our mind will be calm, and if our breathing is agitated, our mind will be agitated "
49 " Underneath someone’s violent nature, there is always fear, rooted in either childhood or present circumstances. Underneath that fear lurks hurt and vulnerability. If you really want to forgive someone,look beneath the surface and see what is there. "
50 " We sometimes find it difficult to control our emotions. At such times, take some quiet time alone. Go for a walk on your own, watch a great film read a new book, or do some meditation. Give the suppressed emotion space until it can breathe easily. "
51 " If our breathing is calm, our mind will be calm, and if our breathing is agitated, our mind will be agitated. The same goes the other way around: Frantic minds make for frantic breathing, and peaceful minds produce peaceful breathing. In addition, breathing always happens in the here and now and thus anchors our mind in the present. As we breathe more calmly and deeply, the mind follows suit, savoring deep and peaceful silence. "
52 " Excessive thought won’t solve a problem. Rather than trying to fix it by thinking, set your mind at ease. A solution will rise to the surface. Remember that wisdom comes from stillness. "
53 " We consider it good to be good to others, but don’t forget that you have a responsibility to be good to yourself first. "
54 " Don’t judge people based on how they appear,as they may have difficulties that nobody can see. "
55 " Because each person’s situation is different, it’s difficult to draw any firm conclusions, but one of the known causes of becoming a workaholic is growing up feeling unworthy of your parents’ attention unless you do something great, as opposed to feeling loved and cared for unconditionally. "
56 " Failure is something we all experience. Each time we fail, we can learn from our mistakes and become a little bit wiser and more prudent. "
57 " even though we find many such imperfect things in the world we live in, we cannot help but love them. Because our lives are far too precious to be spent in ridicule and hatred of what doesn’t appeal to us, of what we do not understand. As we become spiritually mature, we naturally develop more empathy and try to see things from others’ perspectives. This, in turn, teaches us to accept the imperfections of others, and of ourselves, in a more graceful and compassionate way, like a mother loves her child no matter what. "
58 " When we say that someone is “good,” we often mean that the person complies with the will of others and isn’t self-assertive. "
59 " Without people to pay attention to us, our lives would feel empty, like being alone on a stage without an audience. With this in mind, I would encourage people to think every once in a while about whether there are friends or family members going through a difficult time. Even though we may not have solutions to the problems they are facing, they will be grateful just to know we are willing to listen. "
60 " The opposite of greed is not abstinence but knowing how to be content. "