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41 " Assertiveness is declaring your point of view and not feeling as if you need others’ approval or validation. "
― Damon Zahariades , The Art Of Saying NO: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!)
42 " Being assertive means having the self-confidence to express your needs and wants, and pursue your own ends, even in the face of opposition. It involves telling people where you stand on a given topic and leaving no room for confusion. Assertiveness is declaring your point of view and not feeling as if you need others’ approval or validation. "
43 " I realized that as long as I was respectful to the individual asking for my help, I wasn’t responsible for any offense taken when I said no. "
44 " being assertive is nothing more than confidently communicating your position. "
45 " If you don't prioritize your life, someone else will. "
46 " the problem isn’t that we say yes to opportunities. The problem is that we fail to discriminate between the wrong opportunities and the right ones. "
47 " Self-care isn’t selfish. It’s necessary. The problem is, if you’re constantly saying yes to other people, putting their priorities ahead of your own, you won’t have the time or energy to care for yourself. And you’ll slowly become irritated, cynical, and miserable "
48 " do you regularly feel unhappy, stressed, and exhausted as a result of constantly putting other people’s priorities ahead of your own? "
49 " The biggest challenge you face when learning to say no is overcoming the feelings of guilt, fear, and shame that surface when you disappoint people. "
50 " It’s important to remember the effects of saying yes. When you consent to other people’s requests and put their priorities ahead of your own, you give up control of precious resources - most notably your time. Once these resources are squandered, they cannot be reclaimed. We "
51 " A request that’s promised to take “a couple of minutes” ends up taking half an hour. A favor that’s promised to take an hour ends up consuming half the day. "
52 " means each of us is responsible for making sure our personal needs are met. No one is going to do it for "
53 " Yet many of us are still tempted to stall for time when someone asks us for help. We know we’re unable to spare the time and/or energy. We realize the answer must ultimately be no. But instead of giving the requestor a direct response, we beat around the bush and delay the inevitable. "
54 " Once you possess the ability to say no with confidence and grace, and do so with regularity, you’ll notice changes in how others perceive you. They’ll have more respect for you; they’ll place a greater value on your time; and they’ll come to see you as a leader rather than a follower. "
55 " Thanks for asking me to help. I appreciate your confidence in me. The thing is, I’m swamped until 4:30 p.m. Can you follow up with me then? "
56 " Iunderstand the temptation. Someone asks you to do something you’d rather avoid. As an honest person, you’d like to tell them as much. The problem is, you fear that honesty is likely to cause him or her to feel offended, upset, or resentful. "
57 " you don't prioritize your life, someone else will. - Greg McKeown "
58 " The most responsible thing you can do is care for yourself before you cater to others. "
59 " We have a limited number of hours to play with each day. That means every time we say yes to someone, we’re saying no to someone or something else. And every time we say no, we free ourselves to spend that time and attention on another person or interest. "
60 " To be sure, helping others is honorable. But your resources are limited. You only have so much time, money, and attention at your disposal. It’s important to be prudent in how you use these resources. "