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1 " Besides God, there is no glory above coming from humble beginnings, from sleeping under a porous grass thatched mud hut to rising above and beyond tabernacles of greatness "
― Thabo Katlholo , The Mud Hut I Grew Upon
2 " At one level the story of the second fall of Zimbabwe can be read as tragic yet a courageous one: a simple but soaring binary about unfounded courage in the face of immeasurable oppression. But at another level, it is a window into a much more complex, perhaps even darker and sadder, narrative about contemporary slaveship and the terrible collision of aspiration and frustration and the need to survive that has been unleashed upon the people of Zimbabwe. Exploitation and oppression are not matters of race. "
3 " As an ancient cradle of Iron Age civilization, Zimbabwe has a great emotional importance to the economy of Southern Africa and that's especially true for Botswana since both countries are landlocked. Harare was the site of some historic scenes and the best trade regimes, and it is where generations of Southern African children have gone for their education. Bulawayo was a trade giant amongst the people of the north – the Bakalanga, the Venda and the Shona. Now brick-by-brick the empire was facing a second fall after the last fall of the Great Zimbabwe. "
4 " To understand what happened in Zimbabwe its worth trying to see things through the Zimbabwean people prism for a moment. Immune from the propaganda and the western media mind- bend. The real issues started a long, long time ago before the current regimes. Those who came bearing greed and seeking to rip off the cradle of Sub-Saharan Africa orchestrated the demise the people of Zimbabwe found themselves reeling in "
5 " Not much was said of Gaberone except its riches and its danger. The prisons were said to be in-escapable, the shanty towns cheap, the police didn’t bother the illegal immigrants unless they were caught committing crimes. A dangerous paradise. "
― Thabo Katlholo
6 " A Motswana in Zambia or Zimbabwe was referred to as gwerekwere and so was a Zimbabwean or Zambian in Botswana. Post-colonialism tragedy. "
7 " As it was, being a Zimbabwean immigrant was the worst thing a person could be in Southern Africa. They were the new Hebrews – homeless. "
8 " We are relatives at the village and yet we become strangers in the city "
9 " I am the Mud Hut I Grew Upon "
10 " Over the years, I have grown to see people in need of a savior so bad that they would eat grass, drink petrol, and be fed rats and snakes all in the name of finding a messiah. I’ve seen people attempt to deal with the loss of their jobs or school or other livelihood forms or desperately attempt to scramble out of poverty by believing in the most laughable of saviors and ‘miracle workers’.I’ve witnessed women battered, scorned and stripped of their poise and essence because they could not walk away from scoundrels they’d previously deemed their ‘saviors’. Such relationships lead to a savior-martyr relationship. In other words – a certified disaster-in-waiting.Martyr complex is a collateral product of blame. You blame someone for your current misfortunes therefore you go looking for someone else to save you. You blame yourself for your shortcomings and therefore there must be someone out there who can redeem your broken self. "
― Thabo Katlholo , Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into Life of a Chronic Blamer
11 " ext time, before you give yourself a self-diagnosis that you are a weak wimp or too fragile or too caring, PAUSE, take a step back and ask yourself if the people surrounding you aren’t a bunch of assholes. "
12 " As long as you carry a functional brain inside your head, you are susceptible to depression and eventually – to suicidal thoughts. The brain will malfunction if the wiring is triggered the wrong way and that is an inescapable reality for all of us. The only advice I can give is – if the wiring does go wrong, seek help. Talk to someone and trust me, someone will listen to you. You need not be ashamed, just take that first step and reach out to someone. "
13 " While one cannot state that all blamers have narcissistic personality disorder, blaming is a common behavior among those who fall somewhere on the continuum. "
14 " While it’s certainly true that life presents many difficulties, and undeniable the pain and suffering they often cause, to blame others as the reason for one’s unhappiness is to cast oneself in the role of the victim. For all those years I condemned myself to victimhood I lost so much of myself and so much of what I stood for. "
15 " Often, those who are the target of your blame have no idea (or could care less) about how you really feel. You only hurt yourself by being a prisoner of your own bitterness and resentment. Your feelings may be justified, but they will not help you become happy, healthy, and successful. Ultimately, isn’t that what you really want? "
16 " The truth is, when you stop acting like a victim, you’ll start attracting a new group of healthy friends who are interested in you as a person, not just what they can do for you.These are the relationships you want. Healthy relationships have a give and take. You need to give and receive. This is how you really rid yourself of anger and resentment. It’s scary because at first you get to worry that you’ll be all alone, that no one will ever love you. Start small and see what happens. "
17 " It is always someone or something else that is somehow responsible for the problems you’re having.People like me who blame others tend to overemphasize themselves while at the same time underemphasizing the negative effects of their actions. Realize something very important here, I didn't say 'overemphasize the effects of others on them,' I said, overemphasize themselves. Overemphasizing the negative impact others have had on them is very much a part of overemphasizing self. "
18 " There are illusory advantages to victimhood, as finger-pointing provides a convenient justification for life’s unsatisfactory conditions, and sheds the work necessary to take complete charge of one’s own life and well-being. "
19 " What is your problem?What’s keeping you stuck and upset?Why do you blame other people?Be honest with yourself. It’s not easy, but without doing this, you won’t go anywhere. Stop blaming other people. It doesn’t help. It doesn’t change the situation. Actually, it won’t even make you feel better. It’s a great waste of your time and energy. "
20 " Blamers: Before you judge someone for being too emotional or for being a serial whiner, conduct a self-inquisition and you might discover that you are a deadpan asshole yourself. Your emotional coldness should therefore not result in you judging other people for being too emotional. "
