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101 " When we’re in the habit of denying our feelings, it can be hard even to identify what we’re feeling, much less face it, express it, and finally release "
― Edith Eger , The Gift: 12 Lessons to Save Your Life
102 " Ser pasiva es permitir que otros decidan por ti. Ser agresiva es decidir por los otros. Ser asertiva es decidir por ti misma. "
― Edith Eger , The Choice: Embrace the Possible
103 " The worst transgression would be to relinquish my curiosity, I convince myself. "
― Edith Eger
104 " Editke," my teacher says, "all your ecstasy in life is going to come from the inside." It will take me years to really understand what he means. "
105 " Later I will hear that we marry our parents. But I say we marry our unfinished business. For Béla and me, our unfinished business is grief. "
106 " Todavía no sabía que las pesadillas no entienden de geografía, que la culpa y la angustia vagan sin importarles las fronteras. "
107 " The second step in the dance of freedom is learning how to take risks that are necessary to true self-realization. "
108 " Hacer lo correcto casi nunca es hacer lo que es más seguro. "
109 " Maybe to heal isn’t to erase the scar, or even to make the scar. To heal is to cherish the wound. "
110 " es más fácil hacer a alguien o a algo responsable de tu dolor que asumir la responsabilidad de poner fin a tu propio victimismo. "
111 " Los sentimientos, por muy intensos que sean, no son fatales. "
112 " …the things that interrupt our lives, that stop us in our track, can also be catalysts for the emerging self, tools that show us a new way to be, that endow us with new vision. This is why I say that in every crisis there is a transition. Awful things happen and they hurt like hell. And these devastating experiences are also opportunities to regroup and decide what we want for our lives. "
113 " Pero, tal como me enseñaron mis compañeros supervivientes, puedes vivir para vengarte del pasado o puedes vivir para enriquecer el presente. Puedes vivir en la prisión del pasado o puedes dejar que el pasado sea el trampolín que te ayude a alcanzar la vida que deseas. "
114 " Today, more than seventy years have passed. What happened can never be forgotten and can never be changed. But over time I learned that I can choose how to respond to the past. I can be miserable, or I can be hopeful—I can be depressed, or I can be happy. We always have that choice, that opportunity for control. I’m here, this is now, I have learned to tell myself, over and over, until the panicky feeling begins to ease. "
115 " Another tool for moving out of victimhood is to learn to cope with loneliness. It’s what most of us fear more than anything else. But when you’re in love with yourself, alone doesn’t mean lonely. "
116 " Think of the family as a car where all the wheels are integrated and work together to move where it needs to go—no one wheel takes control, no one wheel bears all the weight. "
117 " when we force our truths and stories into hiding, secrets can become their own trauma, their own prison. "
118 " Often, the little upsets in our lives are emblematic of the larger losses; the seemingly insignificant worries are representative of greater pain. "
119 " Sometimes it just takes one sentence to point the way out of victimhood: Is it good for me? "
120 " (My Jungian therapist taught me something that I find quite comforting—that although it feels like the palette of human feelings is limitless, in fact every emotional shade, like every color, is derived from just a few primary emotions: sad, mad, glad, scared. For those just learning an emotional vocabulary, as I was, it’s less overwhelming to learn to identify only four feelings.) "