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21 " There is no hierarchy of suffering. There's nothing that makes my pain worse or better than yours. "
― Edith Eger , The Choice: Embrace the Possible
22 " Change is about noticing what’s no longer working and stepping out of the familiar, imprisoning patterns. "
23 " You can live to avenge the past, or you can live to enrich the present. "
24 " Survivors don't have time to ask, "Why me?" For survivors, the only relevant question is, "What now? "
25 " We cannot choose to have a life free of hurt. But we can choose to be free, to escape the past, no matter what befalls us, and to embrace the possible. "
26 " The hardest person to forgive is someone I’ve still to confront: myself. "
27 " A good definition of being a victim is when you keep the focus outside yourself, when you look outside yourself for someone to blame for your present circumstances, or to determine your purpose, fate, or worth. "
28 " the willingness to take absolute responsibility for your life; the willingness to risk; the willingness to release yourself from judgment and reclaim your innocence, accepting and loving yourself for who you really are—human, imperfect, and whole. "
29 " When we abdicate taking responsibility for ourselves, we are giving up our ability to create and discover meaning. In other words, we give up on life. "
30 " We can’t choose to vanish the dark, but we can choose to kindle the light. "
31 " But over time I learned that I can choose how to respond to the past. I can be miserable, or I can be hopeful—I can be depressed, or I can be happy. We always have that choice, that opportunity for control. I’m here, this is now, I have learned to tell myself, over and over, until the panicky feeling begins to ease. "
32 " What are you going to do about it? I believe in the power of positive thinking—but change and freedom also require positive action. Anything we practice, we become better at. "
33 " In my first weeks at Auschwitz I learn the rules of survival. If you can steal a piece of bread from the guards, you are a hero, but if you steal from an inmate, you are disgraced, you die; competition and domination get you nowhere, cooperation is the name of the game; to survive is to transcend your own needs and commit yourself to someone or something outside yourself. "
34 " Taking risks doesn’t mean throwing ourselves blindly into danger. But it means embracing our fears so that we aren’t imprisoned by them. "
35 " How easily a life can become a litany of guilt and regret, a song that keeps echoing with the same chorus, with the inability to forgive ourselves. How easily the life we didn’t live becomes the only life we prize. How easily we are seduced by the fantasy that we are in control, that we were ever in control, that the things we could or should have done or said have the power, if only we had done or said them, to cure pain, to erase suffering, to vanish loss. How easily we can cling to—worship—the choices we think we could or should have made. "
36 " I don't want you to hear my story and say, "My own suffering is less significant." I want you to hear my story and say, "If she can do it, then so can I! "
37 " and understand that when we anesthetize our feelings, with eating or alcohol or other compulsive behaviors, we just prolong our suffering. "
38 " When we’ve been victimized, there’s a part of our psyche that identifies with the victimizer, and sometimes we adopt that punitive, victimizer stance toward ourselves, denying ourselves the permission to feel good, depriving ourselves of our birthright: joy. "
― Edith Eger , The Gift: 12 Lessons to Save Your Life
39 " Our painful experiences aren’t a liability—they’re a gift. "
40 " thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. "