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21 " Precious few of us stop to think about what we’re feeling. "
― Deborah Sandella
22 " To allow uncomfortable feelings is to be fully alive because it opens the emotional faucet that also supplies joy and excitement. "
23 " As adults, our central motivators continue to be maintaining comfort and avoiding discomfort. "
24 " My feelings are intelligent, directive, and revealingFrom the inside out they rise, flow, revealUncovering, releasing, freeingReshaping my experienceLifting my mood "
25 " When your concern is about future safety, anxiety arises. "
26 " Anger and hurt are two sides of the same coin. "
27 " The underbelly of envy and jealousy is an unconscious holding back of yourself. "
28 " Neutral experiences are easily forgotten. "
29 " Loosening sticky emotion is like unsticking glue - find the stuck spot and gently give it attention so it can come apart. "
30 " No matter how you look at it, you are both humanity and presence. "
31 " We avoid thinking about how we feel, while at the same time, we can’t stop thinking about how we feel. "
32 " Feelings are spontaneous and organic like breath. Allow them to leave and you'll know the same relief as when you exhale. "
33 " When we see ourselves through another’s eyes, we gain valuable insight and direction. "
34 " Allowing yourself to become empathic to the point of being traumatized by another’s experience is unnecessary and ineffective. "
35 " The intellectual and constant retelling of a victim story becomes a broken record, deepening the groove of helplessness in the nervous system. "
36 " When we pay attention and listen instead of denying, suppressing, fearing, or disliking our spontaneous feelings, we gain great access to our natural intuition. "
37 " Feelings naturally arise as passing states of awareness and are not part of us - rather, they give feedback and then expire. "
38 " The essential function of feelings is to provide feedback and pass through us organically like water flows in a river. "
39 " We hold on to what we are trying to avoid. "
40 " Looking through a metaphoric lens, we are the riverbank, and the water flowing through us is emotion. "