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121 " is they’re being treated fairly instead of being given preferential treatment. "
― Emily Nagoski , Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle
122 " Wellness”is the freedom to move fluidly through the cycles of being human. Wellness is thus not a state of being; it is a state of action. "
123 " You turn into a bunny hiding under a hedge. Imagine a rabbit being chased by a fox, and she runs under a bush to hide. How long does she stay there? Until the fox is gone, right? "
124 " Self-compassion is hard because healing hurts and growing stronger can be scary. But it’s worth it because healing helps us grow mighty enough to heal Human Giver Syndrome. "
125 " But in the nineteenth century, with the rise of the middle class, it became fashionable for a man to be able to afford a wife who was too weak to work. It was a status symbol, an advertisement of wealth, for a man to have a wife who not only didn’t but couldn’t contribute to the household income. “Delicate” and “fragile” became feminine virtues. "
126 " 2. Social Appropriateness. Sometimes the brain activates a stress response and you can’t do the thing it’s trying to tell you to do: "
127 " Meaning is not made by the terrible things you experience, it is made by the ways you survive. "
128 " We’re not saying that “beautiful” is what your body should be; we’re saying beautiful is what your body already is. "
129 " We thrive when we have a positive goal to move toward, not just a negative state we’re trying to move away from. "
130 " Trust your body.Be kind to yourself.You are enough, just as you are right nowYour joy matters. "
131 " With positive reappraisal, you can acknowledge when things are difficult, and you recognize that the difficulty is worth it—it is, in fact, an opportunity. "
132 " But we think rest matters not because it makes you more productive, but because it makes you happier and healthier, less grumpy, and more creative. We think rest matters because you matter. You are not here to be “productive.” You are here to be you, to engage with your Something Larger, to move through the world with confidence and joy. And to do that, you require rest. "
133 " Because story goes where science can't "
134 " Positive Social Interaction. Casual but friendly social interaction is the first external sign that the world is a safe place. "
135 " 2. “Chandeliering.” This is Brené Brown’s term for the sudden, overwhelming burst of pain so intense you can no longer contain it, and you jump as high as the chandelier. It’s out of proportion to what’s happening in the here and now, but it’s not out of proportion to the suffering you’re holding inside. And it has to go somewhere. So it erupts. That "
136 " This is a book for any woman who has felt overwhelmed and exhausted by everything she had to do, and yet still worried she was not doing “enough. "
137 " Here’s maybe the saddest part about this: If we take Colin out of the water, dry him off, and put him into the shuttle box, he will not even try to escape the shock, though the door is right there.1 In the shuttle box, Colin could escape if he tried, but he can’t try. His brain has learned that trying doesn’t work, that nothing he does makes a difference…and so he has lost the ability to try. "
138 " we think, I’ll do the self-care thing as soon as I finish this. "
139 " 1. emotional exhaustion—the fatigue that comes from caring too much, for too long; 2. depersonalization—the depletion of empathy, caring, and compassion; and 3. decreased sense of accomplishment—an unconquerable sense of futility: feeling that nothing you do makes any difference.1 "
140 " you’re confronted with people in need, all day, day after day. No wonder parenting is so exhausting—once you’re a parent, you’re never not a parent. You’re always going through the tunnel. "