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Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better QUOTES

1 " Anger is extraordinarily easy. It’s our default setting. Love is very difficult. Love is a miracle. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

2 " Yes, the world is broken. But don’t be offended by it. Instead, thank God that He’s intervened in it, and He’s going to restore it to everything it was meant to be. His kingdom is breaking through, bit by bit. Recognize it, and wonder at it. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

3 " Oh yes, the heart is deceptive. And that calls for humility above all else, because my heart isn’t deceptive because it fools other people. It’s deceptive because it fools me. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

4 " Whether or not you currently feel that God is around doesn’t alter reality. Whether or not you feel He loves you, or even that you are worthy of His love, doesn’t change reality either. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

5 " Few want to hear this, but it’s true, and it can be enormously helpful in life: if you’re constantly being hurt, offended, or angered, you should honestly evaluate your inflamed ego. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

6 " Jesus encountered one moral mess after another, and He was never taken aback by anyone’s morality. Ever. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

7 " Choosing to be unoffendable, or relinquishing my right to anger, does not mean accepting injustice. It means actively seeking justice, and loving mercy, while walking humbly with God. And that means remembering I’m not Him. What a relief. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

8 " So how about taking this idea to all of our experience: You really can’t believe politicians would lie? You can’t believe a preacher would cheat on his wife? You can’t believe someone would try to steal from you? You can’t believe a neighbor would set off fireworks at 2:00 a.m.? You can’t believe a world leader would tyrannize his own people? Are we going to live in perpetual shock at the nature of man? "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

9 " Quit trying to parent the whole world. Quit offering advice when exactly zero people asked for it. Quit being shocked when people don’t share your morality. Quit serving as judge and jury, in your own mind, of that person who just cut you off in traffic. Quit thinking you need to “discern” what others’ motives are. And quit rehearsing in your mind what that other person did to you. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

10 " We should forfeit our right to be offended. That means forfeiting our right to hold on to anger. When we do this, we’ll be making a sacrifice that’s very pleasing to God. It strikes at our very pride. It forces us not only to think about humility, but to actually be humble. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

11 " Whenever there’s an injury to a relationship, a hurt, a broken heart, or even a broken thing, and you are willing to forgive, you are saying, “I got this. I’m going to pick up the bill for this.” This is, of course, precisely what God has done for us. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

12 " In the moment, everyone’s anger always seems righteous. Anger is a feeling, after all, and it sweeps over us and tells us we’re being denied something we should have. It provides its own justification. But an emotion is just an emotion. It’s not critical thinking. Anger doesn’t pause. We have to stop, and we have to question it. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

13 " Choosing to be unoffendable out of love for others is ministry. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

14 " War is not exceptional; peace is. Worry is not exceptional; trust is. Decay is not exceptional; restoration is. Anger is not exceptional; gratitude is. Selfishness is not exceptional; sacrifice is. Defensiveness is not exceptional; love is. And judgmentalism is not exceptional . . . But grace is. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

15 " When we recognize our unsurprising fallenness and keep our eyes joyfully open for the glorious exceptions, we’re much less offendable. Why? Because that’s the thing about gratitude and anger: they can’t coexist. It’s one or the other.

One drains the very life from you. The other fills your life with wonder.

Choose wisely. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

16 " We're told in Psalms 46:10, to "be still," or to "cease striving," and know that He is God. Some people are familiar with this verse but not the larger context, which is that of someone looking over the remains of a battlefield. The original Hebrew is suggestive of stopping the fight, letting go, and relaxing.

God wants us to drop our arms.

No more defensiveness. No more taking things personally. He'll handle it. Really.

Trust Him. Rest. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

17 " Everybody’s an idiot but me. I’m awesome.”—@branthansen) "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

18 " Grace isn’t for the deserving. Forgiving means surrendering your claim to resentment and letting go of anger. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

19 " We hold on to worry because we don’t trust God. We hold on to anger because we don’t trust God. We feel threatened because we’re insecure, and we’re insecure because—surprise!—we don’t trust God. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

20 " Love people where they are, and love them boldly. "

― Brant Hansen , Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better