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21 " At one time or another, we all try to silence painful emotions. But when we succeed in feeling nothing we lose the only means we have of knowing what hurts us, and why. "
― Stephen Grosz , The Examined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves
22 " Being present builds a child’s confidence because it lets the child know that she is worth thinking about. "
23 " Being present builds a child’s confidence because it lets the child know that she is worth thinking about. Without this, a child might come to believe that her activity is just a means to gain praise, rather than an end in itself. How can we expect a child to be attentive, if we’ve not been attentive to her? Being present, whether with children, with friends, or even with oneself, is always hard work. But isn’t this attentiveness – the feeling that someone is trying to think about us – something we want more than praise? "
24 " Ultimately, the thrill created by being told ‘You’re so clever’ gave way to an increase in anxiety and a drop in self-esteem, motivation and performance. "
25 " En otras palabras, la fantasías paranoides son perturbadoras, pero también son un mecanismo de defensa. Nos protegen de un desastre emocional mayor; a saber, el sentimiento de que nadie se preocupa por nosotros, de que no le importamos a nadie. "
26 " And being dirty and broken – how could he love, or be loved? Going back AS A GIFT to my father for his eightieth birthday, my wife and I organised a trip to Hungary. "
27 " Az unalom hasznos jel lehet a pszichoanalitikus számára, hiszen utalhat arra, hogy a páciens kerül egy bizonyos témát, képtelen nyíltan beszélni valamiről, bizonyos kérdéseket túl kínosnak tart. "
28 " ...the past is alive in the present. But the future is alive in the present too. The future is not some place we’re going to, but an idea is our mind now. It is something we’re creating, that in turn creates us. The future is a fantasy that shapes our present. "