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On Love and Loneliness QUOTES

On Love and Loneliness QUOTES

1 " Love is something totally new every day, but pleasure is not, pleasure has continuity. Love is always new, and therefore it is its own eternity. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

2 " As long as one is escaping from loneliness, there is no essential difference between the worship of God and addiction to alcohol. Socially, there may be a difference; but psychologically, the man who runs away from himself, from his own emptiness, whose escape is his search for God, is on the same level as the drunkard. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

3 " Self-knowledge is the beginning of wisdom, which is the ending of fear. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

4 " You will know love when the mind is very still and free from its search for gratification and escapes. First, the mind must come entirely to an end. Mind is the result of thought, and thought is merely a passage, a means to an end. When life is merely a passage to something, how can there be love ? Love comes into being when the mind is naturally quiet, not made quiet, when it sees the false as false and the true as true. When the mind is quiet, then whatever happens is the action of love, it is not the action of knowledge. Knowledge is mere experience, and experience is not love. Experience cannot know love. Love comes into being when we understand the total process of ourselves, and the understanding of ourselves is the beginning of wisdom. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

5 " When the mother and father love their children, they do not compare them, they do not compare their child with another child; it is their child and they love their child. But you want to compare yourself with something better, with something nobler, with something richer, so you create in yourself a lack of love. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

6 " So as long as the mind is comparing, there is no love, and the mind is always judging, comparing, weighing, looking to find out where the weakness is. So where there is comparison, there is no love. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

7 " Words entangle. But if one can understand the whole significance of the ways of one's thought, the ways of our desires and their pursuits and ambitions, then there is a possibility of having or understanding that which is love. But that requires an extraordinary understanding of oneself.

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Love is not a sentiment, not romanticism, not dependent on something, and that state is extremely arduous and difficult to understand, or to be in—because our minds are always interfering, limiting, encroaching upon its functioning. Therefore it is important to understand first the mind and its ways; otherwise we shall be caught in illusions, caught in words and sensations that have very little significance. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

8 " The idea is not love. The idea, the word is not love. But only when you have seen the whole movement of desire, attachment, pleasure, then out of that depth of perception comes this strange flower with its extraordinary perfume. That is love. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

9 " You compare yourself with somebody, compare yourself with an example, with the ultimate ideal. Comparative judgment makes the mind dull; it does not sharpen the mind, it does not make the mind comprehensive, inclusive, because, when you are all the time comparing, what has happened? You see the sunset, and you immediately compare that sunset with the previous sunset. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

10 " It is only when I look at you without comparative judgment that I can understand you. But when I compare you with somebody else, then I judge you and I say, ‘Oh, he is a very stupid man’. So stupidity arises when there is comparison. I compare you with somebody else, and that very comparison brings about a lack of human dignity. When I look at you without comparing, I am only concerned with you, not with someone else. The very concern about you, not comparatively, brings about human dignity. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

11 " can we find a way of living in which we don’t use another, psychologically, emotionally, not depend on another, not use another as a means of escape from our own tortures, from our own despairs, from our own loneliness? To "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

12 " So love is not a thing of the mind. It is only when the mind is really quiet, when it is no longer expecting, asking, demanding, seeking, possessing, being jealous, fearful, anxious—when the mind is really silent, only then is there a possibility of love. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

13 " Can we think about love ? When you love, is thought functioning ? Love and thought are not in opposition; do not let us divide them as opposites. When one loves, is there a sense of seperateness, of bringing people together, or disbanding them, pushing them away ? Surely that state of love can be experienced only when the process of thought is not functioning—which does not mean that one must become crazy, unbalanced. On the contrary. It requires the highest form of thought to go beyond. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

14 " When you are comparing, you are really not looking at the sunset which is there, but you are looking at it in order to compare it with something else. So comparison prevents you from looking fully. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

15 " Your mind must be completely quiet, without a word, without a symbol, without an idea. And then you will discover—or there will come into being—that state in which what we have called love and what we have called sorrow and what we have called death are the same. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

16 " When you use me as a guru and I use you as disciples, there is mutual exploitation. Similarly, when you use your wife and children for your furtherance, there is exploitation. Surely, that is not love. When there is use, there must be possession; possession invariably breeds fear, and with fear come jealousy, envy, suspicion. When there is usage, there cannot be love, for love is not something of the mind. To think about a person is not to love that person. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

17 " Psychologically, suffering comes through attachment—to an idea, to ideals, to opinions, to beliefs, to persons, to concepts. Please observe it in yourself. The world is the mirror in which you are looking that shows the operations of your own mind. So look there. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

18 " A mind that is innocent means a mind that is incapable of being hurt. Because it is incapable of being hurt, it will not hurt another. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

19 " The mind conforms, imitates, because there is more security in conformity, in following a pattern. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness

20 " If I run after it, it is not love, it is a reward. In my inquiry, slowly, carefully, without distortion, without illusion, I have negated everything that it is not, and the other is. "

― J. Krishnamurti , On Love and Loneliness