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1 " The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said. "
― Rebecca Serle , The Dinner List
2 " Consistent contentment rarely makes for good storytelling. "
3 " People in relationships are either flowers or gardeners. Two flowers shouldn't partner; they need someone to support them, to help them grow. ..... There are flowers and gardeners. Flowers bloom; gardeners tend. Two flowers, no tending everything dies. "
4 " So you can't just blame the person who leaves. If two people are unhappy, clocking the person who actually walks out the door is just getting them on a technicality. "
5 " I had to dim my light. It was not an easy thing to be married to a celebrity. But it's also not an easy thing to be married to darkness. Eventually I dimmed so far I extinguished "
6 " Sometimes I think that the only true way we can ever know a thing's value is by losing it. "
7 " What I am telling you is that it's not your place. You do not get to reignite someone else's life. "
8 " You cannot have good without evil,” Audrey says. “They are like DNA strands. Intricately and irrevocably spun together. Sometimes good wins, sometimes evil does. We do not fight for good’s permanent triumph, but for the balance. And so it goes. "
9 " When you suffer alone it’s terrible,” she says. “But when you watch other people suffer, innocent people, those that cannot help themselves—it is worse. "
10 " Worrying is wishing for what you don't want. "
11 " There is no simple beauty in perfection. "
12 " In those two years in the beginning I was happy, and happiness has a way of quickening. Grief marks things. Joy lets them through. Days and months can pass in the blink of an eye. I was happier than I ever remember being in my life. Things changed. Jessica and I moved out. Tobias and I moved in. She got engaged. Then married. And then, he left. We were two years in, six since Santa Monica. What I didn't know then was that we were only halfway there. "
13 " Habits make of tomorrow, yesterday. "
14 " That's the thing about life — these moments that define us emerge out of nothing. A missed call. A trip down the stairs. A car accident. They happen in a moment, a breath. "
15 " Life is growth. If we stop growing, we are as good as dead. "
16 " The mere act of taking a chance, of changing, is by definition an act of evolution. And when we evolve, we grow. And that’s the point. "
17 " When I look back at my relationship with [ Insert name here ] it's at our highlights reel; our greatest hits. The stuff that crept in, the stuff that drove us apart I too easily forget! "
18 " So you can’t just blame the person who leaves. If two people are unhappy, clocking the person who actually walks out the door is just getting them on a technicality. "
19 " You’re an inquisitive person,” I had written to her. “You question everything. But you never questioned Sumir. "
20 " Like their love story was so epic the day-to-day didn’t matter. But that’s what relationships are. They’re the day-to-day. "