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161 " Happiness requires love, being in a relationship, compassion, intimacy as well as freedom. Every relationship binds you with others, thereby reducing your freedom to some extent. There is no possibility of absolute freedom for man. However, it is possible to increase our freedom to maximise our happiness. "
― Awdhesh Singh , 31 Ways to Happiness
162 " When we suffer for good, we become good from inside and then our sufferings come to an end because we start deriving pleasure in suffering for a good cause. Such transformation brings permanent joy in our life because we not only enjoy the pleasures, which are available to all human beings due to our basic instincts, but we can also enjoy the pain that is detested by people. "
163 " Famous people lose their privacy and are always under public critique. The miseries and failures of famous men are much more saleable than their successes. People love to gossip when celebrities fall from grace and leaders are caught in scandals. "
164 " A man who has mastered all the books in the world may still be ignorant if he fails to connect this bookish knowledge with the real world. "
165 " When you force your mind to solve difficult problems of life, it soon starts feeling good due to its ability to solve them. It develops deeper thoughts and its intelligence gets sharpened. It is so energised that it wants to take even more problems and solve them, even if they pertains to others. "
166 " Most of us are so used to living amidst the noise of modern life that we have forgotten the value of silence. Imagine that you switch off all the fans and ACs at your home. You can now hear the slightest sound of the horn from a vehicle plying on the road, or a conversation between people or the crying of a child in your neighbourhood. When it is night and the silence is deep, you can hear the ticking of your clock. When the silence is even deeper, you can even hear the vibrations of the universe and the beating of your own heart. "
167 " When you accept the world as it is, you also accept yourself as you are. One who wants a perfect world has to start with accepting himself as a perfect self. It is not easy. Even making yourself perfect is great torture. Changing the world, of course, is an impossible task. Even Gods, Prophets and Avatars could not change the world. "
168 " People seek new jobs, cars, music systems, televisions or house because they are tired of the existing ones. Their boredom gets alleviated when they are looking at the various options available in the market for these things and then trying to figure out the finance part of it—to buy it with down payment or EMI—and dreaming of the joy of having new things in their lives. However, their boredom is back again once they get used to their new acquisition. "
169 " Criticising and condemning others can’t give anyone lasting happiness. Once people fall into the habit of criticising others, they become susceptible to even criticising their own selves as they too are not perfect. The habit of comparing leads to the habit of criticism, which soon leads to self-condemnation, and fills your life with pain and misery. "
170 " Once our anger has settled down and our rational mind is back in action, we realise the damage we have done to ourselves and to other people in the fit of rage. Even the most sagacious man can become a beast when he loses his temper. But remember that just like a house burnt by fire can’t be brought back even after the fire is dowsed, no amount of repentance can restore the damage caused by your lost temper. "
171 " In order to bring lasting joy to our lives, we must harmonise the past, the present and the future. We must think about the past, be in the present but also visualise our future in a harmonious rhythm. When all three time dimensions are present in our life, we enjoy peace and happiness. "
172 " We and our world are not different just as a drop of a sea and the sea are not different. We are the world and the world is us. Just like every single cell in the body of a person has the same DNA, we too are a microcosm of everything that is out there in the world. We have evolved with the world and we are one with it. "
173 " Love and faith are interconnected. If there is no faith, there can’t be any love. Even the most intimate love can’t withstand the onslaught of adultery, lying and cheating. Once you lose your love, it can never be brought back. If your beloved loses faith in you, it can never be restored. "
174 " If you don’t fix the problems of your past and future, you may lose the joy of the present. You may become susceptible to falling for alcohol, drugs or other forms of intoxicants to calm your mind and to be able to live in the present. "
175 " A powerful person is hated by less-powerful people. Power often ends up becoming the greatest source of misery for many people. "
176 " We must know when to stop exerting to maintain the optimum level of productivity. A man who has no time for enjoyment is no better than a person who has no ability to enjoy. "
177 " You enjoy comfort more when you are tired. If you are always living in comfort, it loses its value in your life and often becomes a source of pain. "
178 " We create our own hell or heaven by giving vent to anger or by mastering it. If you are angry, the world seems like hell. However, when you are peaceful, the same world becomes heaven. "
179 " Making money should not be the purpose of our living but only means to achieve our purpose. You must eat to live and not live to eat. "
180 " When we are ignorant, we see the world from our point of view and expect the world to behave according to our perception. When we are wise, we see ourselves as part of the world, and we try to fit into the world. "