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61 " So it is a major part of maturity to accept not only your own shortcomings but those of the people you love, and help them not to fail when you can. "
― Eleanor Roosevelt , You Learn by Living: Eleven Keys for a More Fulfilling Life
62 " Do the things that interest you and do them with all your heart. Don't be concerned about whether people are watching your or critising you. The chances are that they aren't paying any attention to you. "
63 " What I have learned from my own experience is that the most important ingredients in a child’s education are curiosity, interest, imagination, and a sense of the adventure of life. You will find no courses in which these are taught; and yet they are the qualities that make all learning rewarding, that make all life zestful, that make us seek constantly for new experience and deeper understanding. They are also the qualities that enable us to continue to grow as human beings to the last day of our life, and to continue to learn. "
64 " Politics is the participation of the citizen in his government. The kind of government he has depends entirely on the quality of that participation. Therefore, every single one of us must learn, as early as possible, to understand and accept our duties as a citizen. "
65 " Do the things that interest you and do them with all your heart. Don't be concerned about whether people are watching you or criticizing you. The chances are that they aren't paying any attention to you. "
66 " Or perhaps one can learn only by one’s own mistakes. The essential thing is to learn. Learning and living. "
67 " Timidity and shyness are fears of this sort. Unimportant, perhaps, but they are crippling to self-confidence and to achievement. "
68 " If you will forget about yourself, whether or not you are making a good impression on people, what they think of you, and you will think about them instead, you won’t be shy. "
69 " unless time is good for something it is good for nothing. "
70 " It seems to me that the real problem does not lie in diminished interests after the children have gone. It lies in having limited your interests while they were at home. A woman cannot meet adequately the needs of those who are nearest to her if she has no interests, no friends, no occupations of her own. Without them, she is in danger of becoming so dependent on her children for these things that she is apt to be equally dependent when they have left home. She may give them the uncomfortable feeling that she is languishing without their companionship and so make the time they can spend together an uneasy duty and not the pleasant occasion it should be. "
71 " Human relationships, like life itself, can never remain static. They grow or they diminish. But, in either case, they change. Our emotional interests, our intellectual pursuits, our personal preoccupations, all change. So do those of our friends. So the relationship that binds us together must change too; it must be flexible enough to meet the alterations of person and circumstance "
72 " Usefulness, whatever form it may take, is the price we should pay for the air we breathe and the food we eat and the privilege of being alive. "
73 " The danger lies in the possibility that we will not accept the person as he is but try to make him over according to our own ideas. "
74 " Every time you meet a crisis and live through it, you make it simpler for the next time. If you draw back and say, “I am afraid to do that,” because you might do or say something wrong or you might make a mistake, you will become timid and negative as a person. "
75 " Obviously, it requires effort to use all your potentialities to the best of your ability, to stretch your horizon, to grasp every opportunity as it comes, but it is certainly more interesting than holding off timidly, afraid to take a chance, afraid to fail. "
76 " There are many people of mature age who are making this kind of major readjustment after having attained a place and profession in their own country and acquired substantial means. Stripped of their possessions and their money, they must start once more at the beginning. They must re-educate themselves, first in the language and second in the new customs. They must re-train themselves in the profession, which, in their own country, they had already mastered. To an older man, this is irksome, but in order to comform to the law and have an opportunity to start life once again, it must be done. "
77 " You can do that only if you have curiosity, an unquenchable spirit of adventure. The experience can have meaning only if you understand it. You can understand it only if you have arrived at some knowledge of yourself, a knowledge based on a deliberately and usually painfully acquired self-discipline, which teaches you to cast out fear and frees you for the fullest experience of the adventure of life. "
78 " One reason for this ability to cope with disaster is that nothing ever happens to us except what happens in our minds. Unhappiness is an inward, not an outward, thing. It is as independent of circumstances as is happiness. Consider the truly happy people you know. I think it is unlikely that you will find that circumstances have made them happy. They have made themselves happy in spite of circumstances. "
79 " This, I think, is one of the most effective and rewarding forms of education. The interest is there, lurking somewhere in another person. You have only to seek for it. It will make every encounter a challenge and it will keep alive one of the most valuable qualities a person has—curiosity. "
80 " The danger lies in refusing to face the fear, in not daring to come to grips with it. If you fail anywhere along the line it will take away your confidence. You must make yourself succeed every time. You must do the thing you think you cannot do. "