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1 " The computer offered the illusion of companionship without the demands of friendship. "
― Sherry Turkle , The Empathy Diaries: A Memoir
2 " As technology became our lifeline, we realized how much we missed the full embrace of the human. "
3 " The way we live now is an experiment in which we are the human subjects—treated as objects by the technology we have created. Our apps use us as much as we use our apps. "
4 " I asked Charlie: “Did you think of writing me?” “No,” he said. “I thought your mother wouldn’t have liked that. "
5 " If I developed empathy, at first, it wasn’t so much a way to find connection as a survival strategy. My parents gave me burdens in childhood that I honed into gifts. "
6 " When habitual structures dissolve, so do boundaries between people. "
7 " When individuals meet transformative technology, that technology can change their inner life and relationships. "
8 " Use concrete events to think about large ideas. Use large ideas to think about concrete events. "
9 " These days, our technology treats us as though we were objects and we get in the habit of objectifying one another as bits of data, profiles viewed. But only shared vulnerability and human empathy allow us to truly understand one another. "
10 " Thinking of mind as program trained you to think in absolutes "
11 " During cocktails, Octavio Paz walked up to me with a champagne glass in hand and said, “Vous avez les seins très beaux "
12 " I’m always one sentence away from bringing up democracy, religious freedom, the rights of minorities, all of these in danger. "
13 " My mother had a two-part plan: first to end these court-mandated visits. "
14 " I glanced toward my mother. She was staring straight ahead. The judge spoke again. Same question: “Do you love your father? "
15 " you are always lost when the first recognition is a misrecognition "
16 " The self does not develop independently from its social surroundings. "
17 " the transformative power of intelligence, self-reliance, and words. "
18 " It was a very particular loneliness: knowing that people around you were also sad but that you couldn’t be sad together. "
19 " The way we live now is an experiment in which we are the human subjects -- treated as objects by the technology we have created. Our apps use us as much as we use our apps. We are treated as objects when we are swept up as data to be bought and sold on an international market. Or when our attention is manipulated by our devices, not just to keep us glued to them but to determine what we read, what images we see, and what programs get to see us. We reduce ourselves to objects when we are addressed by machine-generated text or voices, because to be understood, we can only respond in ways that such objects can understand. When we are treated as objects, we are encouraged to object4ify one another and, of course, ourselves. "
20 " When we don’t want to know the truth, we don’t hear the truth spoken to us. "