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1 " The first step off this downward spiral is to acknowledge these bad feelings as natural. When women feel this way, our society has sympathy, and Oprah gives them cars. But when men feel this way, our society demonizes these feelings as signs of weakness, amplifying the shame and self-judgment, repeating the macho advice to “suck it up” and “get over it.” This bullshit makes the problem worse. It’s impossible to pull yourself out of depression by your bootstraps when all you want to do is hang yourself with them. Bad advice can’t fix bad feelings, and neither can ignoring those feelings. Don’t try to push them away or pretend they’re not there. These feelings evolved to protect us from harm, like our fight-or-flight responses. "
― Tucker Max , Mate: Become the Man Women Want
2 " The poet John Ciardi pointed out, “Modern art is what happens when painters stop looking at women and persuade themselves they have a better idea. "
3 " One of life’s great secrets: women don’t look for handsome men, they look for men with beautiful women. "
4 " The science of meditation is very clear and provides overwhelming evidence: even twenty minutes a day doing mindfulness meditation increases happiness, vitality, emotional stability, and focus. It also decreases irritability, anxiety, depression, blood pressure, and the stress hormone cortisol. Meditation induces a physiological relaxation response in your body that counteracts daily stress. "
5 " If you wear Crocs on a first date "
6 " If you set a goal, then forget about it and instead focus on creating an enjoyable process that you love and find personally rewarding, what happens is that you end up doing better at achieving the goal you set in the beginning. "
7 " True confidence is not about hoping that you can take this risk (that’s called courage) and overcome this challenge (that’s perseverance); it’s about realistically expecting that you can do it, based on previously demonstrated performance. A confident guy expects the woman to engage "
8 " The positive side of willpower is the power to do and to frame all of your I won’ts as being in the service of those higher I wills. Once you do that, you’re no longer using your willpower to oppress and disappoint half of yourself. You’re using it to create the future self that you really care about. Thus, willpower is really just being as kind as you can to the man you want to become. "
