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21 " what we believe is most shameful and unique about ourselves is often what is most human and universal "
― Harriet Lerner , The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self
22 " But what is courage? In a world saturated with images of action-figure bravado, we may mistakenly believe that courage is the absence of fear. Instead, it is the capacity to think, speak, and act despite our fear and shame. "
23 " When it comes to fighting shame, sticking together is the most powerful force imaginable. "
24 " Action is powerful. Sometimes you can move past a fear quickly, if you are willing to act. When you avoid what you fear, your anxieties are apt to worsen over time. "
25 " Everything in this world that is truly worth doing takes practice. Courage is no exception. "
26 " When we talk about a person being a problem, rather than directly to the person, we add to the underground anxiety and make it harder for the talked-about person to behave with confidence and competence. "
27 " Whatever we seek to hide makes shame grow. "
28 " You may feel like a coward when your anxiety pushes you to choose silence over speech, or restraint over action. Yet in many circumstances, silence and restraint are the wiser, more courageous choices. "
29 " Change is an anxiety-arousing business because whenever you make a change, you can’t make only one. There is no guarantee where it will stop. "
30 " Learning is finding. Finding is losing something else. "