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1 " But I started to get sick of my own bullshit; bored of my own insecurities. I gave myself a social experiment: try not putting yourself down in front of others for as long as you can. Not shrinking yourself down makes you more of an honest person with the people around you - and is a good test of others too. "
― Emma Gannon , Sabotage
2 " Women have been socially trained to always do more, to never feel ‘enough’ and to always keep the people around them happy, even if they lose themselves in the process. "
3 " It’s easier to fall into distraction but the rewards of self-knowledge, mindfulness and emotional literacy are vast. "
4 " It’s as though we are looking for that confirmation of bias. It’s almost as if we find what we are looking for, if we search hard enough. So why not change what we’re searching for, and maybe find different things? "
5 " Ask your five closest friends and family to name one thing they love about you. Write them down on a piece of paper or Post-it note and put it somewhere private, like inside your wallet. These are the things that are true. And keeping them close to you means you do not need to hunt for validation elsewhere. "
6 " Stop yourself if you’re about to sabotage a compliment. Repeat the person’s words in your head and take them in. Even if you don’t believe them in the moment, by accepting them and not bagging them away, you are retraining your brain to start believing them. "
7 " If we help ourselves, it’s one less thing to struggle against. We can be our own worst enemy, or our own best supporter. "
8 " Phoebe Waller-Bridge thanks him and says:‘It’s going bloody great, Russell!’, she continues ‘Last year has been insane. I’ve loved every part of it. […] I’m always asking myself, ‘How would I feel if this went away?’ about various aspects of it all. I think the things I’d be truly gutted to lose are my creative freedom, my collaborators and a couple of really nice coats. Anything else is just a perk.’We might not all write award-winning TV shows, but every one of us can own our successes when they’re pointed out to us. It’s also infectious. When you watch someone own their successes, you feel compelled to do the same. Therefore, by being positive about yourself, you are probably inspiring someone else in the process. "
9 " You might find yourself fleeing a work or relationship situation, or engaging in some other self-protective/self-sabotaging behaviour, as if there is a real physical threat, when in reality the threat is coming from your false beliefs.' - Dr. Margaret Paul "
10 " Over the years I have become more and more aware of the fact that I am the only person in the world who expects as much from me as I do, and I definitely don't expect the same standards in others. There is always a brief to be met. Sometimes you just about meet it, which is totally fine. Other times you reinvent the wheel with a cherry on top. It's for you to judge when a task demands your everything and, most of the time, it just doesn't.' - Katherine Dixon. "
11 " If you can, work more pauses into your life. When we have quieter breaks to reflect (e.g. eating lunch without looking at your phone; going for a walk without listening to a podcast) you have more of a chance of tapping into the inner nudges and gut feelings that subtly direct you towards what you want. "
12 " If it will take less than five minutes, do it straight away. "
13 " We must try and internalise our accomplishments as much as we can. We must believe our good qualities as fact and not fiction. We must truly use what's great about ourselves as oxygen; we must learn not to solely rely on inconsistent external validation in order to breathe in this world. "
14 " I am an enthusiastic and hard worker, I would like to believe, but often the lack of support or the unnecessary questioning by those around me can cause feelings of self-questioning and lowering of self-esteem, even when I know I am doing my job to the best of my ability, professionally and ethically. This environmental atmosphere can lead to immense self-stress. I'm a harsh critic to myself and the positivity is stifled when there is a lack of external support to appease the self-critic. Things I say to myself: Is that good enough? Clarified enough? I thought I was pretty clear on my thoughts, processes and justifications, so why am I having to justify myself? Is what I'm saying not reasonable?The explanatory ramble that I often go on feels like an internal friction burn. Like a cramp no one can see.' - Rebecca Cunningham "
