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Notes for the Everlost: A Field Guide to Grief QUOTES

Notes for the Everlost: A Field Guide to Grief QUOTES

1 " Humility is in not telling other people what to do but in supporting others as they determine what they should do for themselves. "

― Kate Inglis , Notes for the Everlost: A Field Guide to Grief

2 " Grief is not an illness, a diagnosis, or a constant state. Grief is the bruise after a blow. Blackening is normal. Swelling is normal. Then a rotten sort of putrid. Then it sinks beneath the skin, failing to mark you anymore, failing to excuse you, returning you to the masses before you’re ready. You’ll miss the black and blue because as soon as it fades, you go from “honoring” to—as your onlookers might say—“dwelling,” that damnable word. "

― Kate Inglis , Notes for the Everlost: A Field Guide to Grief

3 " Forgive people for not knowing what to say, for filling the vacuum with every wrong thing. The quicker you realize most humans are artless thugs when faced with someone else's grief, the quicker you'll get over it when you meet one. "

― Kate Inglis , Notes for the Everlost: A Field Guide to Grief

4 " Grief is most intolerable when there’s a gap between what you need and what you’re getting. "

― Kate Inglis , Notes for the Everlost: A Field Guide to Grief

5 " You will never be yourself again. Not in the way you think of “yourself” as a concept. You will always long for what you have lost. But you will also be countless other things you don’t know about yet. "

― Kate Inglis , Notes for the Everlost: A Field Guide to Grief

6 " You might worry your heart is full of holes and that a heart full of holes can't function properly. Now think of all the things that do exactly what they are meant to do thanks to their holes, large or microscopic: sponges, souffles, the foam inside life jackets. Your holes are buoyant. So are mine. Your holes make you lighter than you look. "

― Kate Inglis , Notes for the Everlost: A Field Guide to Grief