" You might worry your heart is full of holes and that a heart full of holes can't function properly. Now think of all the things that do exactly what they are meant to do thanks to their holes, large or microscopic: sponges, souffles, the foam inside life jackets. Your holes are buoyant. So are mine. Your holes make you lighter than you look. "

― Kate Inglis , Notes for the Everlost: A Field Guide to Grief