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41 " Needing attention and observing what works and what doesn’t fulfills that need and paints us a new picture of ourselves that over time distances us from who we really are. "
― Humble the Poet , Unlearn: 101 Simple Truths for a Better Life
42 " To attain knowledge, add things every day. To attain wisdom, remove things every day. —LAO TZU "
43 " Needing attention and observing what works and what doesn’t fulfills that need and paints us a new picture of ourselves that over time distances us from who we really are. We tend to not express ourselves, but rather express what works, and what makes us stand out or fit in. "
44 " You can only start being yourself when you start to get to know yourself. So turn off the distractions, sit down, and have a conversation with the most important person in your life … YOU. "
45 " Unhappiness is simply when the picture in your head doesn't match the picture in front of you. "
46 " Don’t fear the discomfort. When you were a baby first crawling, there was discomfort. When you learned to walk, run, ride a bike, read, and write, there was discomfort. Don’t deny yourself the opportunity for a better life simply because you’re scared to roll up your sleeves and do some work. We tend to sabotage our happiness by ignoring the wonderful things in our life. It’s a martyr syndrome, where we confuse self-pity for self-love. Nothing worthwhile comes from feeling sorry for yourself. That self-pity only isolates you from the beauty and catalysts of happiness around you. "
47 " Respecting the fact that relationships are based on conditions may not be the most romantic, but it is the most realistic. "
48 " This shit doesn't get easier, we just get stronger "
49 " It’s healthy to have a myriad (that’s a smart word for “a bunch”) of emotions occupying the hotel of your heart. Welcome them all in, and experience them the way they’re meant to be (just clean up afterwards). You’ll also realize the relationships between them. The less things anger you, the less things will excite you. The less things make you cry, the less things will make you laugh. Different life experiences are going to break barriers within you and you’ll respond emotionally to things you never connected to before "
50 " Take a super-deep breath and hold it. Hold it a bit longer, then slowly breathe it out and keep blowing until there’s no air in your lungs. Congratulations, you just pressed reset. "
51 " What you fear isn’t the roadblock; allowing the fear to keep you from moving is the real obstacle. "
52 " We can’t see other people’s struggles, pains, pressures, and anxieties. They put up the same front that we do. Trying to evaluate your life in comparison to others will always leave you more depressed for that simple reason. "
53 " The most important relationship you have is with yourself—simple. Putting the responsibility of your smiles on anyone else will often lead to the opposite, and you have no one to blame except yourself. This anti-victim mentality isn’t popular because people don’t enjoy the onus, but it’s probably the only way to ensure a long-standing, healthy ability to have meaningful relationships. "
54 " Most recently, I began to focus more time on figuring out WHY I was experiencing the emotions I felt, rather than simply accepting them. This did wonders for how I dealt with things that came my way. "
55 " We don’t always have the power to change our circumstances, but we can change how we feel about them. Happiness is a feeling, not a destination. If you rely on a circumstance or outcome to be happy, then that dependence will only grow into an addiction. You’ll be climbing a mountain without a peak, feeling more and more hollow the higher you get. "
56 " Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength.” —Corrie ten Boom "
57 " You already know if someone isn't worth your love, so why you keeping them around? "