nonverbal QUOTES

1 " To some believers, being on the pill or using a condom is a nonverbal way of telling God to go to hell. "

― Mokokoma Mokhonoana , The Use and Misuse of Children

2 " Poetry leads us to the unstructured sources of our beings, to the unknown, and returns us to our rational, structured selves refreshed. Having once experienced the mystery, plenitude, contradiction, and composure of a work of art, we afterward have a built-in resistance to the slogans and propaganda of oversimplification that have often contributed to the destruction of human life. Poetry is a verbal means to a nonverbal source. It is a motion to no-motion, to the still point of contemplation and deep realization. "

3 " In particular, husbands and wives who do poorly at nonverbal communication tend to be dissatisfied with their marriages. Moreover, when such problems occur, it's usually the husband's fault .In the first ingenious study of this sort, Patricia Noller (1980) found thathusbands in unhappy marriages sent more confusing messages and made more decoding errors than happy husbands did. There were no such differences among the wives, so the poorer communication Noller observed in the distressed marriages appeared to be the husbands' fault. Men in troubled marriages were misinterpreting communications from their wives that were clearly legible to total strangers.Even worse, such husbands were completely clueless about their mistakes; they assumed that they were doing a fine job communicating with their wives, and were confident that they understood their wives and that their wives understood them. The men were doing a poor job communicating and didn't know it, and that's why they seemed to be at fault. "

4 " In the Christian view, sex was an unclean act. Ask Christians, " Did Jesus have sex?" and watch their nonverbal response. Or ask, " Did Peter enjoy sex with his wife?" or " Did Mary and Martha, 'whom Jesus loved,' ever enjoy a good orgasm?" Such questions do not compute in the Christian mind. The Christian founders are seen as asexual. "

5 " At the most basic level, therefore, secure attachments in both childhood and adulthood are established by two individual's sharing a nonverbal focus on the energy flow (emotional states) and a verbal focus on the information-processing aspects (representational processes of memory and narrative) of mental life. The matter of the mind matters for secure attachments. "

― Daniel J. Siegel , The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are

6 " Our nonverbal behavior (including posture) gives away our inner personality and reflects our inner attitude. "

― Cindy Ann Peterson , My Style, My Way: Top Experts Reveal How to Create Yours Today

7 " In science fiction, telepaths often communicate across language barriers, since thoughts are considered to be universal. However, this might not be true. Emotions and feelings may well be nonverbal and universal, so that one could telepathically send them to anyone, but rational thinking is so closely tied to language that it is very unlikely that complex thoughts could be sent across language barriers. Words will still be sent telepathically in their original language. "

― , The Future of the Mind: The Scientific Quest to Understand, Enhance, and Empower the Mind

8 " When introverts are in conflict with each other...it may require a map in order to follow all the silences, nonverbal cues and passive-aggressive behaviors! "

― Adam S. McHugh

9 " Communication can be sent or received through verbal or nonverbal cues. "

― Asa Don Brown , Interpersonal Skills in the Workplace, Finding Solutions that Work

10 " 93/7 Rule: 93% of communication occurs through nonverbal behavior & tone "

11 " Reading is a source of liberation. Children who are taught to read early on, are commonly taught to communicate in other significant verbal and nonverbal ways. "

― Asa Don Brown

12 " He seemed like the sort to have a vast arsenal of smirks, shaped over a decade of nonverbal conversation. "

― Thomm Quackenbush , Artificial Gods (Night's Dream, #3)

13 " Authority—when abused through micromanagement, intimidation, or verbal or nonverbal threats—makes people shut down & productivity ceases. "

― John Stoker , Overcoming Fake Talk: How to Hold Real Conversations That Create Respect, Build Relationships, and Get Results

14 " 14 Ways to Become an Incredible Listener

1. Be present and provide your undivided attention.
2. Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
3. Listen attentively and respond appropriately.
4. Minimize or eliminate distractions.
5. Focus your attention and energy with singleness of purpose on what the other person is saying.
6. Quiet your mind and suspend your thoughts to make room in your head to hear what is said—in the moment!
7. Ask questions and demonstrate empathy.
8. Use your body language and nonverbal cues constructively and pay attention to theirs.
9. Follow the rhythm of their speech; hear their tone.
10. Repeat and summarize what you have heard them say to confirm understanding.
11. Be open-minded and non-defensive.
12. Respond rather than react.
13. Be respectful, calm, and positive.
14. Try to resolve conflicts, not win them. "

― Susan C. Young , The Art of Communication: 8 Ways to Confirm Clarity & Understanding for Positive Impact(The Art of First Impressions for Positive Impact, #5)

15 " Scientists attach great importance to the human capacity for spoken language. But we also have a parallel track of nonverbal communication, which may reveal more than our carefully chosen words, and sometimes be at odds with them. "

16 " One of the most surprising forms of nonverbal communication is the way we automatically adjust the amount of time we spend looking into another's eyes as a function of our relative social position. "

17 " My drawing, like that of most cartoonists, is intended first of all to be functional: to create believable space and communicate information. My strongest point in drawing has always been my ability to show characters' nonverbal communication through facial expression and posture. "

18 " Mr. Bean is at his best when he is not using words, but I am equally at home in both verbal and nonverbal expression. "