" People with this orientation ask for help more than the be-gooders, because asking for help proves to be-gooders that they’re not as good or smart as they want to be, and others might see that as well. I remember almost having to convince my dad that he was wrong, I was not a climber, it was going to be hard, and I needed some help. "

― Henry Cloud , The Power of the Other: The startling effect other people have on you, from the boardroom to the bedroom and beyond-and what to do about it