" As both Christians and psychologists, we live in two different environments. The religious world sometimes blames problems on the child, saying that it’s all in Suzie’s sinful nature. The counseling world sometimes blames the parents, placing all out-of-control behaviors on “what happened to Suzie as a child.” In each case, there’s a clear good guy and there’s a clear bad guy. Neither of these views is completely accurate. Actually, the news is worse than that! Who we are today is essentially the result of two forces: our environment and our responses to it. "

― Henry Cloud , Boundaries with Kids: When to Say Yes, When to Say No to Help Your Children Gain Control of Their Lives