" Don’t get angry with your spouse for her weakness! This is the worst thing you can ever do. It is using your strength in that area to destroy. If you have done that, if you have judged your spouse’s weakness or inability, put down this book and go apologize, if not for her sake, then for your own (see James 2:13). "

― Henry Cloud , Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships