" There is a difference between helping someone who is disabled, incapable, or otherwise infirm versus helping someone who is resisting growing up and taking care of what every adult (or child, for that matter) has to be responsible for: herself or himself. When you find yourself in any way paying for someone else’s responsibilities, not only are you stuck with a delayed ending, but you are probably harming that person. "

― Henry Cloud , Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward