" A victim is in a position of weakness and subject to the whims of others. Heroes are people who determine their own fate and their own future. A victim had nothing to give and no choice to make. A hero has the strength and ability to be generous and forgiving and the power and freedom that come from being able to make the choice of forgiveness. "

― Desmond Tutu , The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World