" One of the main problems, at the intersection of race and polyamory (and really at the intersection of privilege and oppression), is that we don’t always know what we’re doing, we don’t always stop talking long enough to listen, and we’re often far too scared or too defensive to learn uncomfortable truths about ourselves or our behaviors. "

― Kevin A. Patterson , Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities