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21 " She’s made getting accepted into a great college an obsessive and unhealthy “need” rather than a “want.” If she doesn’t get accepted into what she deems as a “great” school, she’ll consign herself as a failure. In other words: she’s in the GAP. "
― , The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success
22 " By continuously learning, you’ll be enabled to do what your former self couldn’t do. You’ll be able to create what your former self couldn’t create. You’ll be able to have what your former self couldn’t have. "
23 " The past is nothing more than the meaning you ascribe to it. Traumatic experiences can be changed. They are not fixed. Motivation is often broken into one of two categories: approach or avoid. "
24 " What preoccupies us is the way we define success.” —Arianna Huffington "
25 " sometimes your hardest experiences can be your most potent peak experiences—which teach you lessons and provide perspectives that truly clarify what you want for yourself. "
26 " This brings up a highly nuanced and crucial distinction: you can want something and be 100% committed to that thing without needing it. This is the counterintuitive reality: by no longer needing what you want, you are actually far more enabled to get it. "
27 " If you focus on what you lack, you lose what you have. If you focus on what you have, you gain what you lack. "
28 " Something Dan Sullivan has noticed in coaching tens of thousands of entrepreneurs since 1974—over 47 years!—is that most of them are mentally “here” but wanting to be “there.” It really doesn’t matter where they are now and how great their lives are, they continually wish they were “there.” Many high achievers have a hard time being “here.” And although it’s great to have goals and vision and be driven, you’re in the GAP if you’re “here” but wishing you were “there.” Playing a longer game allows you to embrace being “here.” Yes, you have goals and vision, but you’re completely happy where you’re at. "
29 " The goal of creating an environment of freedom is that as an individual, you actually live your life according to your own choosing rather than compulsion. "
30 " I don't think we set and achieve goals in an effort to become happy. We do it because we are happy and want to expand our happiness. "