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1 " Remember, the point of doing this [personality inquiry] is not to pigeonhole yourself with a four-letter type but to get clear on important aspects of your makeup--your personal blueprint. Use this inquiry as a mirror to see yourself more clearly, Don't accept the results as truth. Use them to find clues, "
― , The Pathfinder: How to Choose or Change Your Career for a Lifetime of Satisfaction and Success
2 " You don't feel courageous because courage is not an emotion. There is no such thing as feeling "courageous." It is an imaginary emotion. Courage consists of doing what you said you would do even when you don't want to. In the face of danger, you have a choice to be the delegate of either your commitments or your feelings. It's as simple and as difficult as that. "Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear." -- Ambrose Redmoon "
3 " No matter where you go, there you are. —BUCKAROO BANZAI "
4 " When you are having difficulties, a single attack of “Yeahbut maybe I should compromise a little for the sake of practicality” can bring an inglorious end to the fulfillment of your dream. "
5 " Almost everything is tuned to keeping the status quo shuffling along. When your life really takes off, some of your friends are very likely to perceive this as a threat because you, not they, are stepping out into a new future. They will cajole you to keep within conventional bounds, to be reasonable, to do the “right” thing. "
6 " Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live. —NORMAN COUSINS "
7 " It takes courage to tell the truth about what you are committed to. Most of us are not completely, unshakably committed to having a truly marvelous career or marriage or anything else. For the most part, we are committed to comfort, low risk, and equilibrium. Remember, wanting/wishing and commitment are two completely different domains. "
8 " Just as an individual can invent purposes, so can groups of people. A marriage can be dedicated to a shared ideal, to making some sort of contribution or anything else that extends the intentions of the relationship beyond the usual boundaries. A group of friends can create a purpose so that their interactions are more than just hanging out together. Some examples: Marriage: to be a model for other people, including our children, of just how great a relationship can be; to contribute to the world around us. A group of friends: to be family to one another; to support one another to have all of our lives be happy and successful. "
9 " Every aspect of your life is directly related to how well your career fits you. People who are engaged in satisfying, challenging careers that match their talents, personalities, and goals usually achieve a higher degree of success than people who do not care passionately for what they do. They are healthier, live longer, and tend to be more satisfied with other aspects of their lives. They feel their lives are meaningful and a source of joy. An ill-fitting career contributes significantly to stress and depression, and has a profoundly negative effect on self-esteem. "
10 " The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat. —LILY TOMLIN "
11 " True independence means being free from the domination of your own internal automatic behaviors, not doing what you feel like when the urge strikes. "
12 " How can an intelligent person, committed to choosing a new career path, decide exactly which direction to pursue? "
13 " There is not one single human being walking the earth who does not suffer from a serious case of the Yeahbuts when he or she seeks to expand personal horizons into unknown territory. "
14 " It is possible to consider "stuck" in a new light, as our own personal interpretation of what's occurring. When you say "stuck", you unconsciously and unknowingly make another statement: that the circumstances are the cause of our situation, and you lose power. The circumstances run the show. If you create a new interpretation, "I am stopped," you instantly put yourself in the driver's seat. The ability to create a new interpretation is a powerful ally. Once you begin to look at your situation from this perspective, you can start to diagnose the problem and figure out how to deal with it. "
15 " wages and rewards of going with the flow of your programming. The willingness to feel fear and keep going forward distinguishes the living from the merely breathing. "