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1 " Sex is not about genitalia. It’s about relationship. When God said ‘the two shall become one flesh,’ he didn’t mean it only physically. "
― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: Creating a Marriage That's Both Holy and Hot
2 " Intimacy is about sharing something with your spouse that you don’t share with anybody else. It’s letting him in. It’s laughing together. And it’s also feeling that deep hunger for each other! "
― Sheila Wray Gregoire , Nine Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage: Because a Great Relationship Doesn't Happen by Accident
3 " Billions of people have had sex. I don't know how many have actually made love. "
4 " Most of us save our best behavior for those whom we barely know and show our worst side to those we know the best. "
5 " commitment matters. And commitment to the marriage doesn’t just mean saying, “I’m staying ’til death do us part—even if I have to make everyone miserable in the process.” It means saying, “I commit, every day, to make this marriage the best it can be.” Commitment is an active, daily decision, not a one-time vow. "
― Sheila Wray Gregoire , To Love, Honor, and Vacuum
6 " Marriages only work well when both sides desist from keeping scorecards of each other’s performance. "
7 " Even if you don’t always feel love, you can act love. "
8 " Your purity is not based on what you've done with your body. It's based on what Jesus did with His. "
― Sheila Wray Gregoire
9 " Here are some of the truths about money that you can use to measure your own attitudes: 1. Everything we have comes from God (James 1:17). 2. Our most important possessions are heavenly ones, not earthly ones (Matt. 6:19–21). 3. We must be financially responsible. We should make sure we do not depend on others (outside the family) for our livelihood. “If a man will not work, he shall not eat” (2 Thess. 3:10). 4. We should be content no matter our circumstances. Paul says, “But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that” (1 Tim. 6:8). 5. Our identity is based on what Christ did for us and not on anything else (Gal. 2:20). 6. We are to be generous and give to those in need (1 Tim. 6:18). "
10 " Maxine Hancock says we should think of ourselves as the servant leaders of our homes. I think by the addition of the word leaders, she implies that while we serve we should also command respect. "
11 " Defeating lust is not about limiting a man’s encounters with women; it’s about empowering men to treat the women around them as whole people, daughters of Christ. The key to defeating lust is not to avoid looking at women; it’s to actually see them. "
― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended
12 " You defeat porn by rejecting the kingdom of darkness view of sex, that it is only about taking and using someone to meet your needs, and adopting a kingdom of heaven view of sex: that it’s about a mutual, passionate knowing and sacrificial serving. "
13 " When two people love each other sacrificially, they will find happiness. If they aim for happiness instead of aiming to love, they will ultimately fail to achieve either. "
14 " Whatever you tolerate will continue. If he’s doing something wrong—not just something that’s irritating—you need to stop tolerating it. This is not the same as trying to change him. It simply means that you change how you react to him. "
15 " six is old enough to know how to pick a lock, but not old enough to know that you don’t want to be picking that lock. "
― Sheila Wray Gregoire , 31 Days to Great Sex
16 " Life doesn’t have to be a freeform stream of consciousness, where any thought that comes into our heads is entertained. "
17 " Here’s an interesting finding from our research: Women who do not believe traditional gender roles are moral imperatives feel more heard and seen in their marriages. In fact, women who act out the typical breadwinner-homemaker dynamic also feel more seen if they see it as a choice and not a God-given role.9 "
18 " But when we unquestioningly buy into traditional gender roles, we create a strange dynamic in marriage in which we view each other as categories rather than as people. "
19 " Intimate sex requires that you feel as if your spouse values you not just for what you can give them but for who you are. "
20 " Evangelical culture primes women to repress their sexuality but then turns around and chastises them when they are married for doing that very thing. "
